Cock Rings

Cock rings have many qualities that many men will enjoy :

1.When the penis is flaccid, cock rings act like a spacer. They distance the cock and balls from the rest of the body and, as a result, bring the whole package forward. Worn under clothing, cock rings thus help in shaping a flattering bulge in pants.

2.The weight of the cock ring (at least for heavier ones) tug on the genitals, emphasizing the owner’s perception of size and heft of their genitals. The weight also increases the man’s perception of his erection.

3. A correctly sized cock ring slightly squeezes the base of the shaft when the penis is erect, impeding the blood flow out of the penis. Consequently, the cock ring helps in fostering an erection that is maximally hard with the best girth possible.

4.As a part of the ejaculation process, the testicles need to be lifted and be pressed against the body. Since they impede on the rising of the testicles, cock rings help to delay ejaculation in part.

5.For men whose inguinal canals are too large (allowing the testicles to slip (at least in part) into these canals, the cock ring acts as a stopper to prevent the testes from entering this inguinal canal, thus avoiding painful ejaculations or some post orgasmic pains.

6.Cock rings are also useful for men with erectile dysfunction or those who tend to loose their erection too quickly, as a correctly sized ring will press on the veins of the penis and help maintain the erection.

There are various models of cock rings. Apart from the metal rings shown in the various example above, there are also rubber or silicone rings, as well as snap open/close rings. The later are the safest as they can be removed at any time.

True rings (like the metal examples above) can only be inserted or removed when the penis is flaccid. This can be a problem if the ring proves to be too small when full erection is achieved, creating a health hazard. (For metal cock rings, the soft penis must be inserted first, then the balls, one after the other. Same for rubber rings, generally. As for leather rings, they are usually held closed with a snap.)

Finally, it should be noted that, because they impede blood flow in part, cock rings should not be worn all day. They should be removed at least for the night to allow for a healthy blood flow (oxygenation and repair of tissues). And that is especially true for closed rings.

New Sex Rule: The 7-Minute Limit On Blowjobs

Here ye, here ye! We, the women of The Frisky, hereby decree that blowjobs should last no longer than seven minutes. Why seven minutes you ask? Men, let us do you a favor and explain why.

The initial enthusiasm to give a blowjob starts to die around the 5-minute mark. Slobbing the knob is hard fucking work. Your lady is concentrating on sheathing her teeth, generating spit, sucking, working her tongue, bobbing her head at the right rhythm all while trying to interpret what will make you come faster. (Note: We didn’t say harder.) Did his dick just flex? Was that a moan? To play with the balls, or not to play with the balls?

After seven minutes, severe boredom starts to set in. Our minds start to wander. We begin to create unrelated to do lists. Do I have milk? After he’s done, I really should do laundry. Ooh, is a new episode of “Scandal” on tonight? What’s Mellie gonna do next?! The list-making comes to an end pretty quickly though, as lip, neck, and jaw ache starts to set in. Not fun. We would like to invite all men to work a cucumber for 10 minutes and see how it feels.

After the 10-minute mark, annoyance starts to set in. Guys, seriously, if she keeps changing up her technique, she isn’t teasing you. She doesn’t want to prolong the process, trust. She was forced to use her hands from fear of dislocating her jaw. At this point, she’s probably staring up at you in anger wondering if you masturbated all day and that’s why you’re taking so long.

Men, don’t interpret this the wrong way. We don’t tell you this to put the pressure on. For everyone’s sake don’t stress out. (Most people can’t come under stress.) We share this information to assist you. We appreciate the time you spend reciprocating oral and are sure you have your own list of woes. But if blowjobs only lasted a seven minutes, more women would enjoy giving them and men would receive them at a higher frequency.

Men, do yourself a favor, come faster or, after seven minutes, smile down at her and tell her you want to fuck. We bet you 9 out of 10 times she gratefully replies yes.

Day Off, Clothes Off, Game On

When you ditch work for the sole purpose of getting laid it can make for awkward next-day conversation at the water cooler. “So, what did you do yesterday?”, they always ask. “I shot a hot load of cum deep into my wife’s ass”, I’d like to say before taking another sip of water and watching their eyes react.

Actually, that would only tell part of the story… and it’s not really fair to cut out the true context of Sue’s and my day off together. We’re a couple months into an upswing, enjoying a closeness and fondness for each other that goes missing sometimes. Long term relationships can be like that, going through cycles where the intimacy gap waxes and wanes in a slow rhythm beneath the melody of lives intertwined. Sometimes Sue’s love is so strong that she even looks past my mixed metaphors.

Our day to day responsibilities leave little room for spontaneity so we try to push the clutter aside and plan quality (i.e. sexy) time together. She took the kids to school while I lit a fire, dusted off the massage table, and warmed up the coconut oil. The anticipation hardwired into such prep work is enough to make a soft man hard.

I spent the next hour hungrily touching every inch of her; every muscle, every freckle, every fold. We were in constant intimate contact in peaceful surroundings, our world of other obligations melted and evaporated into nothing. It was just us. Together and in love like the day we married, naked and in tune with each others’ every breath. Massage is a wonderful gift of sharing and we recommend it highly.

We showered together, I helped her soap the excess oil from places hard to reach and places fun to touch. We dried our bodies, brushed our hair, got ourselves ready for the day… and then went back to bed. The details, which messed up our bed so badly, do not need to be mentioned but I will say Sue has talents only I really know about. Wowza!

Back at the water cooler… I want to explain that Sue’s ass was completely irresistible because she surprised me with a jeweled butt plug much like this one. She ordered it, received it, and inserted it without my catching on. I discovered it peeking out between her cheeks like she was Queen of the Assholes. I kneeled, I kissed, and then I took the Queen’s precious jewel and fucked her real good.

I’d love to imagine what goes through my co-workers jealous little heads when I leave for a week.

How to Make Her Cum.

Here are some fab tips and tricks for you, from me, about what the ladies want / expect / wish / demand / lust / desire.... when it comes to foreplay in the bedroom (wherever your actively fucking):

1. The massage. I put this at the very top of the list, because it is my truly, absolutely, most favorite part of the whole escapade. Massages can be so hot, sexy, romantic, sensual, and just a plain turn on! I genuinely would bang a female massage therapist that I’m not psychically attracted to, just because she gives a good massage. Seriously. And by “bang,” I mean she could even go down on me. I just love massages, and want to express to my Bro’s how a simple massage could turn into the best sex of your life. A tip: remember her upper thighs... those are the best parts!

2. Kissing! I love kissing – fresh breath and tongue, on my neck and all over my body – kissing is the perfect lead-in to feeling up and down her body. Getting her wet, with your cock hard, and teasing the fuck out of each other…so HOT. Just remember: fresh breath is ALWAYS appreciated.

3. Setting the mood. Ultimately, any place you want to fuck can probably be accommodated, aside from the really illegal places... and any place can be set up to be a real sexy area, but the trick for me is in the pre-planning. Everything in life is smoother with a game plan, right? The other day, I cleared my hotel furniture and attempted to fuck on the windowsill. It could have backfired, but the attempt is what counted, and planning helped a lot before we even got started! So – try to make the location of the sex fun, frisky, and hot. Use candles and lighting, scents and music, decor or none at all – just think about how the place makes you feel, and how it will make her feel, and increase it with your senses so the kind of sex you have is inspired by the mood you’ve set.

4. Conversation. Sounds so simple, but a great interaction with someone, a real intellectual talk, even a spiritual one, or even a fun and playful banter, can change the way I see an individual. Try to not be too full of yourself – and make sure to ask her lots of questions about herself. People love to talk about themselves, don’t you? Having a hard time breaking the ice? Knowing a little about what’s going on in the world, or in pop culture, or having common likes and dislikes, can really help to spark interest.

5. Titty play. Boobs can be ultra sensitive; I know mine are! Lots of attention to my tits is always appreciated, and makes a woman feel really sexually desired, so make sure to touch them and caress them, suck them, and lick them – and of course if foreplay goes accordingly... TITTY FUCK them! Of course, tread carefully – some girls get annoyed if they’re not turned on before titty play, so if she seems like that kind of girl, maybe start with something else to get her warmed up before attacking the tits.

6. Butt play. It’s not for the weak of heart. I’m only kidding in my case – that’s totally a turn on to me, and I don't mean just anal sex. I mean you can softly or roughly grab my ass, kiss it, lick it, and anally rim it. I love a man to want to eat my ass out, with his tongue deep inside me. Is that too much info?

7. Play with that clitoris. Start just over the top of, twirl it around, and listen to her moans to see what she's into. Make sure you’re not going too hard, by asking her how she likes it. Kiss her when you’re playing with her clit, and look into her eyes, and touch her neck with your mouth. This can all lead to an orgasm, with absolutely no sex…and she’ll thank you for it!

8. Finger that pussy. All this action has got her soaking wet by now – at least mine would be. So slip your clean fingers deep inside of her, and bang her, nice and slow, and then speed it up. Make sure she is okay with this – you can move up to 2 fingers or more, which can be really fun as well.

9. Spanking. My personal fetish can get a certain type of woman in the mood to play dirty, and I mean real dirty. Make sure you test it out first though – start softly, and see if she's into it. If she’s not into it, do not continue. But more than likely she is, and you should absolutely try to “punish” her to the extent that she is comfortable. This is about turning HER on, not hurting her! :)

10. Pussy licking. My personal favorite and most important part! If she’s nervous, keep working at it to convince her to love it. If she's going to have sex with you, how could she not, right? Some girls are very insecure about their girl parts, and need a little extra confidence about how good they taste, and smell, and feel. Get your tongue and face up in there, and be the man I know you are – eat her out properly!

11. Make her cum.

Sex With Blindfolds

Blindfolds for Beginners

A blindfold can increase sexual tension and magnify arousal; because when one your senses is lost all of the other senses become heightened to compensate. There is more to sex with blindfolds than you might imagine, so read on to find out how you can use these sexual aids to spice up your relationship.

Food Foreplay

The use of blindfolds doesn’t have to be overtly sexual, so if you are trying to persuade a partner to step outside of your love-making routine, a good place to start is outside of the bedroom. Blindfold her, or have her blindfold you and surprise each other’s taste buds with all kinds of yummy treats; like strawberries, honey or chocolate. Just avoid the temptation to slip something nasty in her mouth, like a chilli, if you want the fun to carry on in the bedroom afterwards.

Blindfolds in the Bedroom

Once you have built up a level of trust you can move the fun and games into the bedroom. If your partner is wearing the blindfold; undress her and then begin caressing her hands, toes, legs, back, stomach, face, neck, breasts and genitals. Experiment with the pressure of your touch and tease your partner by pausing before touching her again in an unexpected place – moving from one part of her body to another. Allow you lips to trace the lines of her body, kissing and licking as you move down towards her vagina. This is an intense form of foreplay, because she can't see what you're doing, which makes her anticipation that much more powerful.

She doesn’t have to be a passive partner, why not let her explore your body, smell the scent of your body or taste the flavour on your skin. This will allow her to focus all of her other senses. Or if you would prefer to be the submissive partner then reverse the roles and let her tie the blindfold on you. Then prepare to experience amazing sensations – when you can’t see what she is doing the feel of her hands or mouth on your skin is magnified two-fold and can be mind-blowing.

Inhibitions tend to diminish somewhat when people wear blindfolds and that is especially true for the unmasked partner, because they know that their facial expressions, movements or the parts of their body that they are self-conscious about can’t be seen. So to try something even more adventurous or liberating, why not both wear blindfolds?

Handy Household Items

Experimentation with blindfolds can be relatively spontaneous. You don’t have to plan it out in advance or buy a special blindfold. Instead, you can use things that you already have around the house like your ties, her scarves or anything else that can cover your eyes adequately.

A simple blindfold can result in an amazing level of arousal, so find that tie or scarf and enjoy!

Online Dating

The concept of online dating can be considered daunting for some, especially if it is your first foray into the world of finding a date online! There are countless success stories as well as those who simply did not manage to find someone compatible! If you look into the facts about online dating you can easily use these to your advantage to create a profile which will help you get the most out of your experience and help you meet your dream partner and perhaps make some new friends along the way!

The first step you need to take is actually joining a dating site and this maybe where a lot of your success lies. There are countless generic dating sites which are open to people of all interests, backgrounds, jobs and ages and these tend to have the most members to contact. In addition to this there are niche specific dating sites which are only open to a small selection of individuals, this could be by job, age, particular interest and so on, where in some cases although the number of members will be limited you may find it easier to connect with someone. Increasingly there are dating sites which require you to do a personality test and the results of which will match you with someone whose answers are said to be compatible to yours. After choosing the type you then have the option of free or paid dating sites, once again this is down to personal preference.

If you are happy to join one of the paid dating sites I would recommend you looking for coupons, discounts and special offers, you may be able to save some money on your subscription.

Your profile creation will be the most important part of joining, this is the first impression that everyone will see and what will result in opinions being formed. The most important thing to consider at this point is to always be yourself. Although you may find this is a great opportunity to ‘reinvent’ yourself online if your internet persona does not carry through into your real life persona then you will quickly find you will be meeting people who think you are someone you really aren’t resulting in potential incompatibilities, failed dates and wasted time.

To find someone who suits you perfectly fill in as much of the information as required and although you may find some of your interests quirky and prefer to hide them, having them on your profile will give you the opportunity to meet someone else with a shared interest.

When it comes to photographs it is essential that you have at least one, although it is not a requirement to join you will find that profiles without photographs tend to be completely overlooked.

Take time to properly complete your profile, the more information there is with a picture, headline and so on the more people will have to go off.

Don’t be afraid to make the first move, if you like someone’s profile send them a message, don’t go for something generic! Try and connect with what interested you about the particular profile in the first place, perhaps a shared interest or maybe you have both travelled to the same country? Whatever it is, mention it, it can be a great starting point.

When you have found someone you would like to meet arrange a date in a public place, don’t invite them back to your home and don’t go to theirs. Ensure you are safe at all times which is easily done if you are in a public place and follow safety principles.

How to Get Naked

1. Be Proud Of That Belly

"If you're already undressing, you've made it that far, but now is the big moment. Don't suck in your gut. Be confident -- what you have is what you have, and it's all going to be revealed in time, right? So just go with it and feel good about yourself."

2. You're Not Magic Mike

"Don't do any swinging around. I don't think that's a good idea. You're not in the Chippendales. Maybe I would say a cute little hip swing or something -- that's adorable, that could be cute. Maybe a little bit of a dance move, but no swinging around!"

3. Keep The Playlist Chill

"No putting on music, 'cause then you'll feel like you need to dance and perform [unless] it's something...in the background, setting the mood. Nothing like 'I Believe in Miracles.' We want to stay away from the '80s. No 'It's Raining Men.'"

4. Shirt Goes First

"I would say don't just leave your shirt on. Probably start with taking off the shirt."

5. Socks Go Last

"I think that's actually very cute. I do. Because you're confident enough to leave your socks on 'til the end, and that's the greatest reveal. The socks come off, and then you're fully nude!"

The Naked Hug

We practice an astonishingly simple strategy to maintain an intimate connection amid the challenges and distractions of the lives we lead together and apart. Naked hugs.


Simple, intuitive, obvious even, but far too many of us overlook the most basic solutions to our greatest needs. To love, to feel love, and to feel the support of an intimately connected partner is a foundation upon which a rich and rewarding life can be built.


Skin (our largest organ) gives us an invaluable communications tool which transcends language and has the ability to affect our very chemistry; lowering stress levels and raising feel good hormones like Oxytocin. This is not just true for lovers.


“The conversation between your fingers and someone else’s skin. This is the most important discussion you can ever have.” — Iain Thomas


Adopting the classic American ideology of "more is better", I suggest that the regular hugs you're already giving might be cranked up a few notches in potency if you were both naked. That you should strip down together and go toe to toe, that she should bare her breasts and press them against you because science says it's for the greater good. And it works.


You now have a daily commitment to linger naked in each other's arms, no matter what, and it's how you end each day (usually in bed). Your touch speaks for you... it expresses vulnerability and trust, love and lust, our history and futures together. It is paradoxically both grounding and elevating and weaves you back together.


As the proud owner of a "Y" chromosome, when she wraps her naked body around your largest organ is a pretty effective sexual trigger. Well... maybe I give my chromosome too much credit because she gets worked up by all the skin-on-skin too. Sex is more frequent (and better) on the naked-hug-a-day plan.


If you try this at home, and you should, keep in mind that sex should never be the goal. It is important to give yourself over fully to the embrace, to feel every inch of skin touching you and to pour love out through your every pore. I believe this is the essence of what we seek in sex anyway, before the genitals interrupt with their very important needs.


Setting aside a few moments each day to touch each other is simple and practical. It doesn't take practiced communication skills, negotiation, or reflective listening (all important in their own way). Instead, it leverages your own collective biology to reduce stress, defuse conflict, and reinforce long held priorities. It's free, readily available, and can lead to better, more frequent sex.

The Naked Hug is a no brainer.

5 Fun Foreplay Positions

Star 69

Description: In classic 69 form, you face each other's genitals for a great double oral sex session. In this position, she lies on the bottom and spreads her legs in the air, while you make your way on top of her.

Benefits for you: As in "The dairy cow," you can control all motions and intensity according to what you like. Another rewarding thing about this position is that you have the option of using your fingers if your tongue starts to tire out.

Benefits for her: She gets to lie down -- legs spread-eagle -- and enjoy the ride. Pleasing you is simple through the magic of alignment -- her head rests nicely under your groin area. Also, she has two options when it comes to using her free hands. She can either take the "it's-all-about-me" route and use them to caress herself, or she can take the "selfless" route and use them on you for some extra pleasure.

Wetting your appetite

Foreplay isn't restricted to oral sex alone. Have a good time with other techniques that promote just touching -- this can really help with arousal and build up to some wild sex later. So, try these fun positions to shape up for gettin' down.

Poolside

Description: While she lies on her stomach, you approach her from between her legs. Place a pillow under her stomach to give you easier access to her genitals.

Benefits for you: You're in control here -- use your hands, use just your fingers, use your tongue and your lips. Any way you do it, she's sure to enjoy the pampering.

Benefits for her: One of the great things about this position is the element of surprise -- she can't really see you and has no idea what to expect. The "mystery" factor can lead to an overwhelming heightened sensation as she enjoys you enjoying her.

The electric slide

Description: She leans on her side with one leg bent up and one stretched out; you lie on her outstretched leg, facing away from her. This position is great for caressing and massaging her legs and feet (and for getting yourself a little massage-action too).

Benefits for you: This position is not only a relaxing, easy-going mutual foot massage technique. It leaves your backside exposed for her to caress, making anal stimulation a possibility if you'd like. Also, if you've got yourself a foot fetish, you don't need me to tell you that this is surely the way to go.

Benefits for her: Obviously, this is an ideal way to help her unwind and get into the mood. Hardly anyone can resist the sensuous charms of a relaxing rubdown.

Sealing the deal

Who said positions were only reserved for intercourse? They can also be very helpful before sex too. Try out these moves before doing the deed and see how they can contribute to the fun.

Keep in mind: Great play beforehand will certainly increase your chances of amazing sex afterward.

The Month of May is Masturbation Month

Ah, the month of May. The weather heats up, the clothes come off and society encourages everyone to masturbate themselves silly. You read that right -- May is National Masturbation Month. So take a guilt-free break from trying to win over the girl of your dreams and focus on yourself for a little instead with the knowledge that everyone’s cool with it.

And if you’re brave enough to help destroy the stigma around self-love, you can raise money for sex-awareness groups at events like Philadelphia’s Masturbate-a-thon Fundraiser. Only 29 days left in May. Better get started!

In Defense of the Slut

How many times have you heard people say, “If she wasn’t such a slut…” or, “She’s kind of a slut, but…” or, “I can’t believe she’s slept with [X number] of people”?

I always interject by pointing out that being a slut is not a bad thing — at least, not in the way I define it, i.e. enthusiastically enjoying your sexuality in ways that are always physically and emotionally safe. There is a big difference between sleeping with ten different guys in one month and taking ten Plan B pills in one month. The former is perfectly fine sluttiness (that I encourage!) while the other has nothing to do with sluttiness and everything to do with being careless and irresponsible. I’ll take the side of sluts any day.

How We Learn the Slut Stigma

At a young age we are often taught that women are somehow damaged if they do not “save themselves” sexually for their one true love. As we grow older, many of us find ourselves – naturally — wanting to have sex before marriage or even true love, but the negative connotations attached to more casual sex can still linger, sometimes subconsciously. This can make women feel detached from their own sexual pleasure, turning sex into something that a women does for someone else rather than for herself. How many times a day do we hear the message that a man needs to work hard in order to convince or trick or pressure a woman to sleep with him in order satisfy his natural animalistic libido, while less lustful-women women resist and hold out until perhaps they eventually “give it up.” The conventional cultural wisdom tells us sex is something men do to women, not something people do together on an even playing field, and certainly not something women ever do to men. You hear that enough times, you start to believe it.

Why People Don’t Want the Slut Stigma to Go Away

We all know the tired old double standard of how awesome and studly men are when they sleep around, compared to how dirty, loose, and unlady-like women are when they have a few notches on the bedpost. Stigmatizing the word “slut” has become a way of controlling women’s sexual behavior. If a women thinks that having a lot of sexual partners makes her undesirable, then she might avoid that kind of behavior. She may end up staying in a relationship that is unhealthy, just to make sure she does not sleep with too many people. She may miss out on experiences that she might otherwise enjoy. And if she dares to follow her desires, the guilt and shame that may follow can be debilitating. Thanks to slut shaming, a woman’s sexual agency is seriously limited.

Why the Slut Stigma Is Dangerous

Using the term “slut” as a pejorative is, in part, responsible for the way in which rape victims often get blamed. A woman was raped because she was “scantily clad,” she was “asking for it,” she was “leading him on” — you know, acting like a “slut.” Retaliating against this way of thinking is what spurred the proliferation of the SlutWalks over the past few years. Organizers wanted to reclaim the word “slut” as something positive.

Why We Need to Embrace “Slut”

Expressing one’s sexuality is a good and healthy thing — duh, right? A thousand studies tell us that sex is good for us, but not everyone seems to have gotten the memo. We are told, over and over, that we need to have more sex and better sex and hotter sex — and yet we should also be careful not to explore too much or say too much.

You’d think we’d be over the whole madonna-whore thing by now (yawn), but just last year on Bravo’s reality show “Miss Advised,” columnist Julia Allison described the perfect dress to wear on a first date as one that says to the man, “You can take me home to your mom and I might give you a blowjob on the way there.” Ludacris jumped on the bandwagon with his less-than-original lyric “a lady in the street and a freak in the bed.” Aside from the fact that women are more interesting and more complex then these media portrayals, in both of these examples the sexual part of the women must be hidden in order for her to be seen as respectable.

Women deserve respect. Women are sexual creatures. Ergo, women’s sexuality deserves respect.

What We Can Do to Help

If we could be more open about sex at a young age and actually call a vulva a vulva and not a “private part” or — I even cringe typing this — a”vay-jay-jay,” we might all be better off. We have vaginas just like we have elbows and legs. As much as society does not want to admit it, Freud had it right when he said infants are sexual creatures too. We masturbated as children because we were curious about our bodies. As sex negativity grew, we explored less. Whether you want to find your inner Anastasia Steele/Christian Grey relationship exclusively with your spouse, or you want to enjoy some simple vanilla missionary with your whole block, I don’t think you should be judged any differently. Just keep it honest and safe.

A Slut Mission Statement

I love sluts, perverts, deviants, freaks, and geeks alike. As long as you are fucking in the name of pleasure (and consent), you are okay in my book. A pervert is someone who is not only conscious, but proud, of their sexual nature. That is already more than what a lot of people can say. If you find someone attractive and it just so happens you also like getting off, I say go for it.

Can You Enjoy Sex Without Having A Orgasm?

HELL NO.....

Throughout our sexual life we have been told that the only reason to have sex is to either make another human or to have an orgasm. If you fall outside of these guidelines then you should not even have sex because its no fun and useless. I am here to say that is such a bunch of Bull Shit! Sex is way more than making babies or making toes curl. We put a lot of pressure on our partners when it comes to orgasms and it can create dysfunction in our bedroom.

Studies show that about 75% of women have never achieved orgasm though penetration, and as many as 10% have never achieved an orgasm at all. If a woman does orgasm there is no guarantee that she will orgasm every time. So your girl friend is not alone. Also understand that the orgasm is 80% mental. During times of stress or turmoil it will be harder to focus on accepting pleasure. If there is past sexual trauma or negative ideals towards sex from upbringing that will be a big factor to.

Orgasms are a plus but they are not the only thing that makes sex great. Sex is about intimate connection. It’s about two people coming together to make each other feel a deeper level of pleasure and excitement. Take the emphasis off of the experience of the Big O and enjoy the experience of your lover.

Why You Should Love Your Body Right Now

When we love someone — a boyfriend or girlfriend, a best friend, our parents, our kids — we love them unconditionally. We don’t keep track of random criteria that the person must fulfill.

Our loved ones don’t need a six-pack to gain our respect. They don’t need muscular legs, thinner thighs or chiseled cheekbones to have our appreciation and utmost love.

So why wait to respect our bodies based on a singular, random ideal? A standard essentially set by the very companies that profit from our insecurities, hang-ups and regular body-bashing?

Our bodies are intricate and complex machines and breathtaking works of art. They work behind the scenes on the bare essentials — like breathing, moving, seeing, hearing, touching — so we can go after our dreams.

So we can make our art. So we can make babies. So we can give love. Give hugs. Cook a delicious meal. Savor that meal, bite by tasty bite. Dance. Learn something new. Laugh.

Our bodies are vehicles that take us to amazing places, whether we get there through our feet or our hands. Whether we physically arrive at a destination, are able to read about it or compose a story.

We don’t need to wait until we have blemish-free, wrinkle-free skin to respect, appreciate and love ourselves. We don’t need to wait until we shed X amount of pounds. We don’t need to wait until we have a muscular stomach or a tinny tiny waist.

And we don’t need to stop respecting, appreciating or loving our bodies when we can’t do a certain exercise, or when we’re sick or tired or bloated.

Perfection — whatever that means to you, whether it’s continuously performing at your peak or having a sculpted stomach — isn’t a prerequisite for a positive body image, and it’s certainly not a prerequisite for appreciating and loving ourselves as a whole.

If it were, no one would love. No one would be loved.

But this couldn’t be further from the truth.

Love, of course, exists. And it exists in all shapes, sizes, colors, forms and flavors.

Splatter from Isabella

She crept so very lightly into his shower

And as he felt her hands wrap quietly around his body

He relaxed easily into her loving touch

Her nipples brushing his back as she roamed his wet body

Over his chest

Down his hairy belly

Between his strong thighs

Wrapping her fingers around his restless erection

Eyes closed

He lived every touch of her soft hands

Gently cupping his heavy balls

Stroking firmly along the length of his shaft

Using his foreskin to caress his swollen head

Her thumb lingering slowly on his sweet spot

Bringing him slowly and gently to release

His knees buckled

As his climax swept through his body

His warm cum flowing from his cock

Spattering thickly on the floor of the shower

And as he watched it wash slowly down the drain

He realised she was already gone

Wondering for a moment

If she had ever been there at all…

6 Unexpected Male Erogenous Zones

So you know everything about your partner, right? We wouldn’t doubt it for a second, but as with most things, it’s good to keep learning. When it comes to your man and what gets him turned on, check out these other erogenous zones that may be going unnoticed, and make sure you’re not missing the point!

His Forehead

Perhaps not the first erogenous zone that springs to mind, but hey that’s the point. The head and scalp are covered with nerve endings that will amplify the lightest touch, so try softly massaging from the hairline to the forehead. This will activate the release of feel-good hormones like dopamine and serotonin, resulting in some relaxation and a better mood that will get him in the mood.

The Back of His Knees

It might bemight be ticklish back there, but this area is very valuable when stimulated during foreplay. Due to the smoothness and hairlessness of the skin back there, it’s extra sensitive to touch, so try a light, circular stroke to turn up the heat before or during the main event.

His Ears

According to sex coach and sexuality educator Amy Levine, his ears are “… often a forgotten area that can soothe or excite.” By either focusing some soft smooches or hot breaths on his lobes, you can expect his excitement to grow, or lightly pinch the area where his lobes meet his face and gently tug them downward. Repeat.

His Feet

“Men love foot massages,” says Ian Kerner, PhD, author of She Comes First. What’s more, according to reflexology, the heels are pressure points that are believed to trigger sexual arousal. Our suggestion? After you get his socks off, use massage oil, especially of the scented variety.

His Eyelids

Attention paid to his eyelids is a great way to get him in the lovemaking frame of mind. With his eyes closes, trace your fingertips gently around his eye sockets and over his eyes before laying some light kisses on the area. His closed eyes make it so that you’re in control while he can’t see, changing the power dynamic in a titillating way.

His Prostate

The final frontier for many men when it comes to pleasure, the prostate shouldn’t be overlooked, as it can greatly enhance his enjoyment during foreplay and sex. Prostate massage (with a body-safe and easy-to-clean prostate massager of course) can result in the most intense ever orgasms he’s ever had, and with that sole reason in mind, there’s no reason not to give it a try.

Five Fun Ways to Masturbate

You may think you know how to masturbate, but you have no idea. Every guy’s method for beating the bishop or choking the chicken will differ just a little bit from everyone else’s, naturally. But, all that’s really required is the right kind of friction in just the right spot. Once a man has committed to a masturbation technique of his own, his form pretty much stays the same for his whole life. And yet, it doesn’t have to be that way.


Every guy should know at least five fun ways to masturbate . Sure, the normal five knuckle shuffle is fun and all, but a little variation is good for everybody. There really can be too much of a good thing so it is best to switch things up occasionally to keep things fresh and exciting.


Here are five fun ways to masturbate to make the most out of your alone time.


1. The Stranger. Quite possibly the most famous masturbation technique of all, The Stranger has earned it’s reputation. The one drawback that many see in masturbation is that it is generally a solo activity. It is always better to have an attractive lady friend help you out. As stated earlier, masturbation is tricking your penis into thinking a vagina is around. The Stranger simply takes that trickery one step further. You sit on the hand you plan on using until it is numb. When you lose sensation in that hand feel free to go to town. It feels like somebody else is taking care of you.


2. The Endless Vagina. The act of masturbating is basically simulating a vagina. The Endless Vagina is simulating a vagina that never ends. Fairly self explanatory. The Endless Vagina is achieved by making a fist with one hand and sliding it down over the penis. When the head of the penis emerges slide the other hand down. Rinse and repeat until desired results are achieved.


3. Hot Meat Sandwich. This one is pretty simple. Basically, your stomach and one of your hands will be the bread and you fill this sandwich with your sausage. Rub your hand against your penis for the friction. See, friction equals heat. These names totally make sense. This sandwich definitely beats those egg salad sandwiches they sell in gas stations, just remember to keep some napkins on hand. This is a Hot Meat Sandwich, not a Sloppy Joe.


4. The Lefty. This is really only The Lefty if you are right-handed, if you are left-handed it is The Righty. If you are ambidextrous then instead of five fun ways to masturbate you get four. The idea behind The Lefty is to masturbate using your non-dominant hand. This simply switches things up from the normal routine for a different feel. Your off hand will produce a different pressure, speed and pulling direction. It also helps to keep your dominant hand from developing the aforementioned calluses, so it is basically a win win scenario.


5. Rosy Palms AKA Sandpaper. While the name Sandpaper may cause a little trepidation, this technique is one of the five fun ways to masturbate. The premise is simple, grip the penis with one hand and rub the head of the penis with the palm of the other hand. It’s really only Sandpaper when the hands used are calloused, so be careful how often you have your personal time.

Things You Should Have for Fun Sex

Massage Table - We don't recall exactly where ours came from, likely Amazon.com. There are some really cheap ones on the market so buyer beware. Ours was probably in the $150 range and was worth every penny!



Lamb skin condoms - For birth control (not STI prevention), these condoms are unmatched. Temperature transfer is key to sensation and these do it just like skin, sex feels nearly identical to going bareback. Find them here or at your local Walgreen's.


Liquid Silk lubricant - Our search for the perfect sex lube stopped at Liquid Silk. It's light, water based, super slick, and does not leave you feeling sticky. It's easy to find here or here.



Red Hot Touch DVD's - Jaiya has a series of well produced and very sexy instructional DVD's in her Red Hot Touch series focused on the sensuality of touch. We have many, because she generously gifted them to us, but are particularly fond of the genital massage editions included in the set.



Gear Essentials Cock Rings - If you follow this blog, you have likely already read about Dick's love for these stainless steel (and now aluminum) cock rings. He has reviewed a couple too. Pick one (or more) up with confidence from here.



Harnesses - We have a few harnesses but Jane's current favorite is her Theo from Spare Parts Hardware. Well made, comfortable, and a solid fit, it gives her great control. And hers is pink... so it makes her feel pretty too. :o)



Eroscillator oscillating massager - An all time favorite which sits on the night stand for easy access. Jane retired every other external vibrator in her collection the day she first tried her Eroscillator. You can find one here.



Sexy Games - It's hard to find good sex games and we have even tried making our own, but there are a few we really like to include Sex Is Fun and Unpredictable, both by GreatSexGames.com.



Sex Related Books - We have a stack of these which include both educational and entertaining reading. A few we like are; Anal Pleasure and Health, X: The Erotic Treasury, and Guide To Getting It On.



Hitachi Magic Wand - A real rumbler which is too powerful for Jane's clit but has won our love for its ability to transfer vibration deep into a body during sex. Dick has also figured out how to strap it to his dick with a masturbation sleeve... that's an experience to behold. Pick one up easily here or here.



Fun Factory Share Double Dildo - A great, soft silicone, double dildo which assures she gets a little something extra when she's giving it to him. It's designed to be worn without a harness but for best results we recommend using one. Check it out here or here.



Lelo Soraya Rabbit Style Vibrator - Excellent quality (like all things from Lelo), high end, attractive, and perfect vibrations with infinite variability. This rabbit style dildo is a real keeper that helps Jane achieve fantastic release. Catch the rabbit here or here.



The Sex Deck - A fun deck of cards with which to explore new positions. Select and share your favorites or deal them out and draw your evening plans at random. Find the fun here.




Sex should be more than stimulating, it should be a fun shared experience... one in which you laugh and explore together. Sometimes, especially in long term relationships, investing a little effort in novelty goes a long way. If you have a special occasion planned or if your everyday encounters need extra spark, do something special and unexpected. That may be a sappy love note, a new book or toy, or test driving a new technique... it's the effort that will win their love.

There is pussy everywhere... at the AVN Expo

Crazy shit happens at the Adult Entertainment Expo in Vegas this time of year. I don’t mean crazy cocaine fueled orgies and rampant sexual debauchery, ok i do mean that, but fans rarely get to see that side of it. On my twitter yesterday I started posting some FAN-centric tips for the AVN’s. I was getting a lot of direct messages and questions seeing that a lot of diehard fans are going or have gone and want to know how to get in on the craziness.

So I figured I shed a little light on this issue, as an indie porn producer of over ten years. I still consider myself a fan of the biz and try to keep my perspective in this industry from that side of the fence. The AVN awards are big biz. Bigger than they really should be in my opinion, of course we need to have an awards show but AVN has really lost its luster in recent years. Attendance is way down (don’t believe the hype) and companies are struggling with piracy and content theft.

I think the powers that be need to realize the fans are the ones that are either buying and or stealing the content so maybe retooling the event to make it more fan engaged may make more sense than creating a bloated insular industry incest fest. I mean respect the people that want to pay for it and give the ones that steal it a reason to respect it so that at least feel a little guilty when stealing it..

So some tips for you the FAN at getting the most out of the madness. • The Expo itself is still your best chance to meet the talent and big name stars. The lines will be long and your time with them brief but if meeting them and getting a kiss on the cheek is your thing, the Expo is the place to do it. • The parties on the other hand are not the place to meet them. Trust me they are promoted as such “100’s of stars in attendance” and all that. Now I ain’t saying they won’t be there, but odds are they will be in VIP and you will not get much more of a passing glimpse. To be expected right? I mean thats what “celebrity parties” are like everywhere.

But worth noting as there is always a big push for the fans to go to these. Save your cash, hit the clubs you want and enjoy Vegas. • If you are hell bent on going to these parties and maybe sharing a drink with your favorite adult star. Contact one of the local Club Promoters and Nightlife consultants. I don’t usually endorse this approach, but in this case spending the money may get you to your goal a lot easier then hoping to bump into them at the bar. • Now if you want to “bump” into them your best chance is “the Circle Bar”.

Its the second year at the Hard Rock so I am not sure if the industry as a whole has decided on the new “Circle Bar” but the old one, and hence the name, was the actual circle bar at the Venetian. Your odds at meeting tons of industry insiders and talent are far great when watering up at the designated unofficial watering hole. Ok, so lets say you do meet the talent, I will share some tips on how best to behave in another post. I will leave you with this pic though as a teaser… act like you have seen it before for crying out loud.

Men Suck at Eating Pussy

Men suck at eating pussy. Not because they don’t like it but because it’s really fucking hard. You have to learn it. Giving good head is the key to just about everything in life (including getting good head later on), so it’s time we broke it down. Like this.

The secret to giving good head is to read the signs. You could be the best sexual mechanic in the world, but if you can’t read the emotional road signs, you’re going to end up wandering around in a desolate labial wasteland until, eventually, you drop from exhaustion, hot tears of confusion streaming down your face.

Think of eating the puss as your way of saying, “although I am about to rock your insides with 3 000 lbs. of explosives, here’s a little intimate treat session to show you how I really feel.” Instead of screaming “OH MY GOD!!” like her baby has been trapped under a car (which is what fucking should do), cunnilingus elicits a more splendiferous “ooohmygodohmygod-ohmygod.” Kind of like being massaged with exotic fruits by a muscular Arab oil sheik. A good mange (that’s French for “eat,” you brutes) is like a thousand years of Saturdays or one of those Flake adverts. Break it down!

BE DOWN Don’t go down unless you’re down. Unlike fellatio, cunnilingus can never be done as a favor. Doing it when you don’t want to will only bring on the dry heaves. Eat like a pig at the trough and a lot of stupid mistakes get forgiven.

DON’T SAY HI TO DRY A dry pussy is an unhappy pussy. If your fingers graze a dry bush, go back to the kissing and hugging for awhile. Just make sure you actually dip your finger between the lips. Sometimes moisture gets trapped between the labia and a little fingerial coaxing is all that’s needed to get the honey dripping. Once you’re sure the beaver is wet, give it a few light, teasing strokes with your finger. There’s nothing worse than rushing into this, so make sure she’s really begging for it before you get under the covers.

Extra tip: Be like Prince and bring up a wet finger that both of you can share like a 1950s milkshake with two straws. Important: Don’t play your trump card too soon by putting your fingers all the way inside. This can detract from the upcoming penetration and kill the tease factor. Try to remember that 78% of a woman’s pleasure is about yearning. Poking it in too soon is sure to put out the fire.

SUBMARINE MISSION FOR YOU, BABY Once she’s lathered up, it’s time to go down. Get your fingers out of there and don’t touch anything for a bit. Let your lap do a bit of grinding and get some last-minute necking in like you’re going away on vacation. Though it’s very tempting on your way down to pull the blankets over your head like the little mole-man that you are, this is a very bad idea. It gets super hot down there and whipping the duvet off your head and gasping for air ten seconds before she comes is pretty much going to kill the mood. Start by kissing her boobs and stomach and slowly working your way down. Don’t get carried away with those stupid tits, though. That’s something you should have taken care of before the pants even came off. Right now it’s all about the stomach and inner thighs. A little bit of gentle biting is good, but a sure winner is to start at the knee and move towards the muff in a slow, shark-like swoop. Nibble your way right up to the edge of her cunt, then skip across it and head for the other knee. Repeat. Doing this a few times will get her really hot and save you a lot of pussy-eating time in the long run. When you’re just about ready to do the deed, start practicing on that weird crevice next to the lips. Don’t spend too long there or she might start to think that you think that’s the actual cunt. By now she should be dying for you to make your move. If you’re doing it right, she’ll be moaning and trying to force your head between her legs. Stretch this phase out until she looks like she’s been holding her breath for three days.

Extra trick: Hover over the bush for about five seconds before the first lick. If you wait longer than that, she might think you’re having second thoughts because it smells bad. Of course, we all knows that motherfucker smells sweeter than a bowl of steamin’ crawdaddies. Important: Never bite the cunt in any way whatsoever. If this needs more explaining you should probably just stick to jerking off.

PARTING THE RED SEAS Isolate your playing field. Pubic hairs are to eating pussy what cavities are to dental hygiene. You’re never going to be able to identify all the parts if she looks like that PIL album That What is Not. One hot trick is to get her to spread her lips apart so her pussy is all set up for you like a great big buffet.

THE GRAND ENTRANCE Do your first lick super slow. It’s good to groan and moan too. It shows you’re digging it while sending microscopic audiophonic vibrations right up her snapper. Start just above the anus and take it all the way to the fur. Do about a dozen of these “St. Bernard licks” before moving on (take it really slow, like four seconds per lick). This is a good time to figure out what kind of clit she has. If it’s real sensitive she’ll probably convulse as you pass over it and that means you’re probably in for an easy ride. If there’s no reaction when you graze over her clit, she probably has one of those nerveless little pea clits and you’re in for a thirty-minute session of tongue-tendinitis.

ROCK THE BOAT Eating pussy is so gentle it can make you feel like a bit of a fag. If you’re getting tired of being ballerina boy, take it out on the clit. Figure out how much abuse it can take without making her uncomfortable and show the little bastard who’s boss. After all, Mr. Elusive is precisely what makes muff diving so difficult. He’s surrounded by labia and, even after you find him, all the pressure can pop him over to the side. All of a sudden you’re giving the pee hole the seeing to of its life. Think of the clit like a tumor in a pile of ear lobes. When you push down on the area he’s the only one that can’t be squished. Once one of your tongue troopers finds him, call for reinforcements. Use your lips to get hers out of the way and focus all your attention into getting him alone. Once you find him, give him a bit of a hard time for trying to hide from you. Frisk him and give him a couple of whacks across the head. More on this punk and his bad attitude later. Extra important tip: The best way to stimulate the clit is to run your entire tongue over it after you isolate it from the lips. The man in the boat should feel the texture of the entire tongue pushing down on his body and his boat.

IDENTIFYING THE CLIT TYPE After the slow licks it’s time to get this party started. There are essentially two types of clitori. Ones that enjoy a serious going over and ones that don’t. The latter suck about as much as a one-inch penis and you should dump her right away.

Extra tip: Clits come in all shapes, sizes and sensitivities, but that doesn’t really tell you much. All of them want to be treated slow and soft at the beginning but the only way to tell if you can go fast at the end is by reading her reactions. This is impossible to teach but just do the best you can. All we can tell you is convulsing means take it ease and “Oh my God” means bring it on.

CLITS THAT NEED A SERIOUS GOING OVER These are the most fun because you can be creative. Pretend your tongue is the bad cop and the clit is the guy who killed your partner. Separate him from his buddies (the lips) and suck him right up into your mouth. Now he’s on your turf. Keep him erect by creating an air-tight vacuum chamber in your mouth. Slap the little bugger upside the head with one big tongue bonk. He’s not going to tell you shit because he’s a clit and he has no idea what you’re talking about, but kick his ass anyway. After a few teasers and swirling circles, rat-a-tat-tat him senseless like a boxer whacking a speed bag. If she starts freaking out like it’s too much, ease up on the interrogation and go back to the St. Bernard licks. The vacuum is a great way to bring her to orgasm, but it’s a bit much sometimes, so mix things up with some circles around the clit and some tongue fucking. As you’re closing in for the kill, go back to the vacuum and give the suspect a relentless head smacking. Up-and-downies are usually the most effective, but your tongue will get less tired if you throw in a few side-to-sides. When you feel the inner thighs start to shake, this is it. Be repetitive. Do NOT be creative. You’re almost home and this is not the time to start changing tactics.

Extra tip: To keep the rhythm going, try repeating a chant in your head that goes with the movement of your tongue like a Mic Mac Indian (hi-yi-yi-ya, hi-yi-yi-ya, hi-yi-yi-ya). Any inconsistent action may throw her off, killing the mood or at least setting you back a few minutes, which is bad for morale. Important: Keep going several seconds after her orgasm. Remember, it isn’t over until the hands come down from above and lay you off. If she’s multi-orgasmic you’ll have to keep going until you’ve done the whole routine another four or five times. If you’re not sure what to do, just keep giving her shit until the magic hands come down to pull you off.

CLITS THAT DON’T Some clits don’t want to be singled out and battered around. These are the boring ones that need to be treated with gentle care. Just do casual St. Bernard licks until she cums, pure and simple. If you’re getting bored try going in some different directions for a while. A good way to keep it random is to spell out different letters of the alphabet with the tip of your tongue. You could be looking at half an hour here pal, and that can be problematic. If you go for that long and she doesn’t cum, you’re going to be in a foul mood, so if it’s too much work, move on. On the bright side, going for thirty minutes is something few people have the patience for, so sticking it out will lead to some payback when period week comes around.

THE CONCLUSION Once you’re done (totally finished) she’s going to want you out of there pronto because the whole area is sensitive. Instead of leaving, stick out your tongue and lay it down on her like a thick, soggy carpet. Make sure you don’t move it or anything because that can actually hurt her. Just let it sit there like a dead manta ray for about thirty seconds. Then come up and wipe your face like a pirate. You now have a good minute to get the condom on and take her from the quarters of Prince Muhammad Muhammad Saddat to the cockpit of an F-15.

4 Must-try Sex Positions

Making even subtle changes to your current 'go-to' list can mean the difference between a sex life that's fine and one that's on fire When it comes to sex positions, after a while it's only natural to fall back on your old favorites. And there's nothing really wrong with that, except that, well, it's kind of dull. So mix things up! Experiment! Surprise your guy with something unexpected!

Digging Deep sex position We're most familiar with man-on-top positions. They're great for gazing lustily into each other's eyes. And as an added bonus, they're terrific for deep penetration. For fans of deep, intense penetration and enthusiastic thrusting, you can't beat this position. With this variation, the top half of your body can't move much, but you can make up for it by moving your pelvis both up and down and side to side. First, lie back on the bed with your torso and bottom on the bed and your legs resting on the floor. When he penetrates, you bend your knees back toward your stomach while he supports himself on his hands and thrusts forward. It's best for him to keep one of his legs on the floor for support and the other on the bed for balance. If it still doesn't feel like he's penetrated deeply enough - you greedy girl - pull your knees even further back and rest your calves on his shoulders, or, heck, show off by demonstrating just how handy that Pilates class really was by crossing your ankles behind his neck. Add extra frisson by holding your own hands above your head to give the illusion you're tied up. Better still, get him to actually do it!

The Sex Squat sex positionn Urgent, animal and aggressive, rear-entry positions are used by most couples when they're both massively turned on. He can thrust more powerfully here than in any other position, and while some women flinch at the thought (Ouch! You just hit my cervix!), most are huge fans. Because you can't see each other, it's great for fantasising (being unfaithful is obviously much better in your head than actually in your bed). And although it looks energetic, you can respond as little or as much as you like. Up the lust level by doing it in front of a mirror, or vary it by alternating between leaning forward on your forearms and sitting up straight, leaning back and letting him kiss your neck. For my new twist on that old favourite, you'll need a chair, and it's important that it's sturdy. If you can, secure it against something or put it near a table or window ledge (a good idea, maybe, to draw the curtains while you're there), which he can grab onto to keep things steady. Once that's set up, you stand on the chair facing away from him, then get in a squatting position with your hands on the back of the chair for support. He puts his hands on your waist or clasps the top of your thighs and penetrates gently. It may help if he puts one leg on the chair to keep it steady while leaving the other on the floor. As I said, keep it s-l-o-w. Move your bottom from side to side for a unique, intense sensation.

Top To Bottom sex position If you like your body and enjoy being boss in bed, woman on top is perfect for you. You're in complete control of how fast and how deep he thrusts, and you're in a good position to kiss, touch and tease him, even tie him up. Don't attempt this next new position until you're ready for him to orgasm, because orgasm he will, rather rapidly. This position is extra stimulating for any guy who likes looking at your bottom (are there any who don't?) and for you if you like anal play. In fact, it puts him in the perfect position to gently insert a well-lubricated finger into your anus during intercourse (don't knock it till you've tried it) so you get the delicious sensation of being completely 'filled up.' Visually, for him, it's stunning. He gets a rarely afforded, intimate view of your bottom and genitals (you might think, gross! but he thinks, great!), and you'll like it because it feels primal and erotic knowing he's looking at a very private area. You'll need a chair for this position as well, and it's best if it's sturdy with no arms. He sits on it in the usual manner, while you go on all fours on the floor in front of him, facing away from him. He then pulls you toward him and lifts your legs up to wrap them around his waist. You're supporting yourself on your hands as he penetrates. With his hands on your buttocks, he moves you back and forth to thrust rather than moving his own pelvis (he's not being lazy, he just can't move much). The 'top to bottom' looks extremely impressive but it's actually dead easy to do. You have to have reasonable arm strength, but that shouldn't be a problem because you regularly lift weights at the gym, right? Now there's an incentive!

The Sideways Swoon sex position I always think of side-entry sex as Sunday-morning sex; lazy, relaxed and (literally) laid-back. After all, you really can only do this one lying down. If you're in the mood for a romantic, leisurely, but no less erotic, encounter, this is the one for you. It's also ideal if you're pregnant. While it lacks the urgency or deep penetration of other positions, side-entry sex features on most couples' 'favourite' list simply because the starting position, spooning, is how lots of couples tend to sleep. And if you're going to bed or waking up a little, well, horny, it seems like the most natural thing in the world to take advantage of; with his bits against your bottom, which is so close to other inviting parts and... gosh! How did that happen? In this side-entry variant, you both lie on your sides and get into the classic 'spoon' position. He enters from behind to assume the traditional side-entry sex position. You then bring your knees up to your chest, altering both the penetration and angle of entry and adding an erotic edge. He moulds himself into you, and you both end up in an almost fetal position. You can alter the mood a bit by trying a different leg position. Lie on your side, but instead of having your legs straight, lift one up toward the ceiling (like the leg lifts you do at the gym: one leg on the floor, the other high in the air). He enters, keeping his legs between yours, which are parted as wide as you can. As he's thrusting, he's (how handy!) in the best position to reach around with his hand and stimulate your clitoris.

Location, Location, Location The bed may be comfy and convenient, but there are tons of other options: The stairs make up for height differences. If you're shorter, stand on the step above, and previously impossible positions are suddenly workable. Stairs also make oral sex a touch easier. The shower is great for standing positions, and we all know why those detachable shower hoses were really invented! A chair is the most versatile sex prop of all. Choose a sturdy one without arms and you can stand on it, sit on it or both lean on it. Placed near the bed, it's great support for dangling limbs or to support someone's head. The bath is brilliant for foreplay and great for rear-entry sex. It's a solid, smooth surface that is ideal for you to bend over. A table also works for rear entry, and just about everything else. Lean against it, lie on it or both hop on board and do it on top!