(Medical Xpress) -- Researchers from the University of Groningen Medical Centre in the Netherlands have found that for women at least, watching pornographic videos tends to quiet the part of the brain most heavily involved in looking at and processing things in the immediate environment, suggesting that the brain finds arousal more important during that time than is processing what is actually being seen. The team has published a paper in The Journal of Sexual Medicine describing their findings.
To find out if the primary visual cortex is essentially deactivated during sexual arousal in women, the team enlisted 12 volunteers; all women between the ages of 18 and 47, who had not yet reached menopause. Also each was on oral birth control pills which tend to flatten menstrual cycles and smooth out sexual desire and/or anxiety. Each was shown three videos, one with no sexual connotation, another with mild sexual content, and a third that was full on hard-core porn. While they were watching the videos, the women were also having their brain activity watched via PET scans, which work by measuring blood flow to the various brain regions. It is thought that more blood flow indicates that more brainwork is occurring, which implies that when the brain delegates tasks to different regions, by sending more blood, it is demonstrating that it finds certain activities more important than others.
The team found virtually no difference in brain activity in all of the women when watching the first two videos. When watching the third however, they found that blood flow to the visual cortex was reduced in all of the volunteers indicating that the brain had decided that focusing on arousal was more important than fixating on exactly what was occurring on the screen in front of them (or that women just don’t want to really see what is going on with sex). This is in direct contrast to most other visual activities which tend to cause more blood to flow to the visual cortex to process all of the information that is coming in.
The researchers also suggest their findings help explain why women who exhibit symptoms of anxiety often report sexual problems, as high anxiety is often correlated with increased blood flow to the visual cortex due to the person reacting on a nearly constant basis to visual stimuli. They point out that for people in general, the brain cannot be both anxious and aroused, it generally has to be one or the other, or neither.
Thursday, April 26, 2012
Tuesday, April 24, 2012
Penis Girth Matters
How many times have you heard women say that penis size doesn’t matter? Or that when it comes to a guy’s penis, it’s not the size of the boat, but the motion of the ocean? Well, I have good news, bad news and more good news. It’s true that the length of a man’s penis isn’t a big deal to most women; in fact, the typical vagina is only about four inches long when aroused, while the average penis is about five to six inches long when erect -- so you do the math. Alternatively, penis girth (or width) can make a difference. Worried that you don’t measure up? I have tips and tricks to help you take your sex life from “meh” to “wow”!
The pink pearl
First, let's talk about the clitoris. Most people are familiar with the little pink pearl that sits at the top of the labia. It is extremely sensitive and is covered by a little hood of skin that is actually where the tops of the labia come together. But there is much more to the clitoris than just what you can see and feel. The entire clitoris is shaped like an upside down “V.” Its legs (crura) extend down and under the pubic bone, and it also has extensions that follow along each side of the vaginal opening, called the vestibular bulbs. The entire clitoris is made up of spongy tissue that fills with blood when a woman gets aroused. As Dr. Emily Nagoski discusses in the Good in Bed Guide to Female Orgasms, “Averaging just one-eighth the size of a penis yet loaded with nearly double the nerve endings, it is the only human organ with no function other than pleasure.”
The power of penis girth
A wide penis puts more pressure on the vestibular bulbs, which gives a pleasurable feeling of fullness at the vaginal opening. Some researchers have commented that this feeling of fullness is psychologically pleasing as well. A wide penis also creates more tension on the labia, which, in turn, causes more tugging and movement at the hood covering the clitoris. This adds stimulation to the clitoris in addition to the surrounding tissues. The pudendal nerve supplies the entire vulva, including the labia, clitoris and the lower third of the vagina. So, the more surface area you have contact with at any one time, the more exciting signals you’ll have traveling through that nerve. A wide penis can do just that.
Now, the average erect penis is about four inches in circumference (I’ll pause here to let you get that tape measure). But all men can use certain techniques to give a woman the feeling of a wider penis. First, use a slight circular motion as you thrust. This way, the shaft of the penis pushes more against the sides of the vaginal opening, giving the woman that extra pressure and tension. You can also choose an angle of entry that allows you to put more pressure on the fourchette, the area below the vaginal opening where the labia end in a little "V." This will also tug the labia a little more and stretch her pelvic muscles. Feeling creative? Try working in extra fingers or using a penile sleeve.
So that's the skinny on penis girth, guys. Remember, regardless of how you measure up, you can still pleasure women!
The pink pearl
First, let's talk about the clitoris. Most people are familiar with the little pink pearl that sits at the top of the labia. It is extremely sensitive and is covered by a little hood of skin that is actually where the tops of the labia come together. But there is much more to the clitoris than just what you can see and feel. The entire clitoris is shaped like an upside down “V.” Its legs (crura) extend down and under the pubic bone, and it also has extensions that follow along each side of the vaginal opening, called the vestibular bulbs. The entire clitoris is made up of spongy tissue that fills with blood when a woman gets aroused. As Dr. Emily Nagoski discusses in the Good in Bed Guide to Female Orgasms, “Averaging just one-eighth the size of a penis yet loaded with nearly double the nerve endings, it is the only human organ with no function other than pleasure.”
The power of penis girth
A wide penis puts more pressure on the vestibular bulbs, which gives a pleasurable feeling of fullness at the vaginal opening. Some researchers have commented that this feeling of fullness is psychologically pleasing as well. A wide penis also creates more tension on the labia, which, in turn, causes more tugging and movement at the hood covering the clitoris. This adds stimulation to the clitoris in addition to the surrounding tissues. The pudendal nerve supplies the entire vulva, including the labia, clitoris and the lower third of the vagina. So, the more surface area you have contact with at any one time, the more exciting signals you’ll have traveling through that nerve. A wide penis can do just that.
Now, the average erect penis is about four inches in circumference (I’ll pause here to let you get that tape measure). But all men can use certain techniques to give a woman the feeling of a wider penis. First, use a slight circular motion as you thrust. This way, the shaft of the penis pushes more against the sides of the vaginal opening, giving the woman that extra pressure and tension. You can also choose an angle of entry that allows you to put more pressure on the fourchette, the area below the vaginal opening where the labia end in a little "V." This will also tug the labia a little more and stretch her pelvic muscles. Feeling creative? Try working in extra fingers or using a penile sleeve.
So that's the skinny on penis girth, guys. Remember, regardless of how you measure up, you can still pleasure women!
Monday, April 23, 2012
Erections and Naturism
In terms of your concerns about erections, you are not the first to be worried about this; nor will you be the last. I hope that I am able to put your mind at rest with the following information.
I have been a Naturist for a long time and YBN has many members that are completely new to Naturism and to being naked socially. Nearly all of the members have shown the same concern about getting an erection when they first joined. However when it comes to the crunch of making the step into ‘public’ nudity there is absolutely nothing to worry about!
It is quite normal that guys’ hormones can be a little wild when they are going through puberty and soon after. It is perfectly natural for your body to react in ways that you have no control over, without any reason or warning… It can be a worrying time, full of confusion and doubt.
The thing to remember when you are in a naturist environment is that although there are lots of naked bodies, it is not sexual in any way. But if when you are naked and feel that you may be getting aroused then you just need to make an effort to cover it up; you can wrap a towel around yourself or roll on your front etc; it is not acceptable to walk around with an erection.
But don’t get too hung up on this issue, it really is nothing to worry about! The thought and worry will go away as soon as you arrive and strip off with everyone else!
Naturism is a great way to feel accepted and to become comfortable with your own body image; most members have found that by coming to Naturist events both their overall confidence and their positivity towards their own body image has increased. Naturists are very accepting people; they see people for who they are and not what they look like. It’s not about what ‘brand’ or ‘badge’ you are wearing; it is all about you as a person.
Rest assured though, you are not alone with your initial concerns! After all; the majority of us have felt those same concerns and had those same anxieties. Like most new things; the thought of trying something often creates much more anxiety than at the actual experience itself!!
I hope this helps and if you have any further questions about this or YBN & Naturism in general please do not hesitate to ask.
I have been a Naturist for a long time and YBN has many members that are completely new to Naturism and to being naked socially. Nearly all of the members have shown the same concern about getting an erection when they first joined. However when it comes to the crunch of making the step into ‘public’ nudity there is absolutely nothing to worry about!
It is quite normal that guys’ hormones can be a little wild when they are going through puberty and soon after. It is perfectly natural for your body to react in ways that you have no control over, without any reason or warning… It can be a worrying time, full of confusion and doubt.
The thing to remember when you are in a naturist environment is that although there are lots of naked bodies, it is not sexual in any way. But if when you are naked and feel that you may be getting aroused then you just need to make an effort to cover it up; you can wrap a towel around yourself or roll on your front etc; it is not acceptable to walk around with an erection.
But don’t get too hung up on this issue, it really is nothing to worry about! The thought and worry will go away as soon as you arrive and strip off with everyone else!
Naturism is a great way to feel accepted and to become comfortable with your own body image; most members have found that by coming to Naturist events both their overall confidence and their positivity towards their own body image has increased. Naturists are very accepting people; they see people for who they are and not what they look like. It’s not about what ‘brand’ or ‘badge’ you are wearing; it is all about you as a person.
Rest assured though, you are not alone with your initial concerns! After all; the majority of us have felt those same concerns and had those same anxieties. Like most new things; the thought of trying something often creates much more anxiety than at the actual experience itself!!
I hope this helps and if you have any further questions about this or YBN & Naturism in general please do not hesitate to ask.
Friday, April 20, 2012
5 Ways To Start Getting Oral Sex REGULARLY!
Oral sex can be a fun way for your partner to show you how much she loves you. If you aren’t getting as much oral sex as you want, use these methods to start getting it on a regular basis.
1. Wake Up The Nerves In Her Lips And Mouth
I’ve never met a woman who doesn’t absolutely LOVE this. Next time you’re in bed or even just kissing your woman, kiss her really nicely and then say. “Hold on a second. I want you to close your eyes and just let me kiss you for a second.”
The key is to get her to just stay still with her mouth either closed or partially open. While she’s laying there (or standing there), take the very tip of your tongue and lightly trace it along her lips. You just barely want the tip of your tongue to touch her lip.
You’re not licking her like dog here or anything like that, you’re just gently caressing her lips with your tongue.Women LOVE this when you do it right.
2. Create An “Oral Fixation”
OK, you remember Pavlov’s dogs? The short version is that Pavlov rang a dinner bell every time he was going to feed some dogs he had. Before long the dogs started salivating when he rang the bell even when there was no food.
We’re going to start doing something similar with your wife. We’re going to start creating a connection between pleasure and the idea of having part of YOU in her mouth. Next time you’re in bed with your woman, take time to really focus on HER pleasure.
If there’s a particular way she really likes you to fuck her, do that. Or you can go down on her, use your fingers. Just focus on doing something you KNOW gets her off and that she really enjoys.
While she’s in the throes of passion, bring your fingers up to her mouth. Just bring them right up to her lips. (Quick note: many women really LIKE the taste of their own vaginal juices. You may want to get your fingers all wet, finger her to an orgasm and then bring your fingers up to her mouth.)
The key is to have her suck on your fingers either WHILE she’s experiencing great pleasure (one hand is getting her off while the other is in her mouth) or directly afterwards.
This is largely a continuation of our last “Trick” but it deserves its own section. If/when she starts to lick and suck your fingers, make sure you give her POSITIVE reinforcement.
3. Use “Outside The Bedroom Talk”
Hopefully you’re in the habit of giving your wife/girlfriend/lover compliments. What I want you to do from now on is start mixing in the occasional comment on her lips, mouth or tongue. So at one point you might comment on her eyes, her hair, whatever else you find sexy about her.
But then slip in something like:
“You have the most gorgeous lips.”
Or “Your tongue really turns me on.”
Or “I love the way your lips feel on my skin.”
You don’t ever need to make a direct connection between this and oral sex. Instead just create the idea in her mind of her lips, mouth and tongue being sexy and beautiful and desirable.
Again, we’re going for more self esteem, power and desirability here. With everything you’re doing, make sure you do it with a smile. Remember, sex is FUN!
4. Show Her What It Feels Like
I know, this sounds weird, let me explain. Next time you’re messing around with your woman I want you kiss your way down her arm. Use your tongue and lips liberally here and really let her enjoy it.
Kiss your way across her palm, up her fingers and then (with a smile, this is FUN) take her finger into your mouth. Eye contact is good here. Really have fun with her fingers. Fingers are actually REALLY sensitive. She’ll probably like this a LOT and may even get into it.
Being the “Receiver” in that way can really help your woman get into the idea of blowjobs being fun for both side.
5. Make It Seem Like Her Idea
OK, as I said way back in the first few pages of this (increasingly comprehensive…man, my fingers are tired) training, one of the reason so many women don’t like giving a blowjob is because of trauma from the past.
A boyfriend or husband or some guy they were dating was too rough with her, made her gag, created a bad memory and ruined it for the rest of us.
So what we need to do to get her to be INTO the idea of giving you head is put her in the driver’s seat and make the whole thing seem like her idea. If you follow the first 4 steps I listed out here you should be slowly warming her up to the idea of her mouth being an erogenous zone and oral being fun.
Now it’s time to give her the opportunity to “take the bait” and make the decision all on her own to give you head.
1. Wake Up The Nerves In Her Lips And Mouth
I’ve never met a woman who doesn’t absolutely LOVE this. Next time you’re in bed or even just kissing your woman, kiss her really nicely and then say. “Hold on a second. I want you to close your eyes and just let me kiss you for a second.”
The key is to get her to just stay still with her mouth either closed or partially open. While she’s laying there (or standing there), take the very tip of your tongue and lightly trace it along her lips. You just barely want the tip of your tongue to touch her lip.
You’re not licking her like dog here or anything like that, you’re just gently caressing her lips with your tongue.Women LOVE this when you do it right.
2. Create An “Oral Fixation”
OK, you remember Pavlov’s dogs? The short version is that Pavlov rang a dinner bell every time he was going to feed some dogs he had. Before long the dogs started salivating when he rang the bell even when there was no food.
We’re going to start doing something similar with your wife. We’re going to start creating a connection between pleasure and the idea of having part of YOU in her mouth. Next time you’re in bed with your woman, take time to really focus on HER pleasure.
If there’s a particular way she really likes you to fuck her, do that. Or you can go down on her, use your fingers. Just focus on doing something you KNOW gets her off and that she really enjoys.
While she’s in the throes of passion, bring your fingers up to her mouth. Just bring them right up to her lips. (Quick note: many women really LIKE the taste of their own vaginal juices. You may want to get your fingers all wet, finger her to an orgasm and then bring your fingers up to her mouth.)
The key is to have her suck on your fingers either WHILE she’s experiencing great pleasure (one hand is getting her off while the other is in her mouth) or directly afterwards.
This is largely a continuation of our last “Trick” but it deserves its own section. If/when she starts to lick and suck your fingers, make sure you give her POSITIVE reinforcement.
3. Use “Outside The Bedroom Talk”
Hopefully you’re in the habit of giving your wife/girlfriend/lover compliments. What I want you to do from now on is start mixing in the occasional comment on her lips, mouth or tongue. So at one point you might comment on her eyes, her hair, whatever else you find sexy about her.
But then slip in something like:
“You have the most gorgeous lips.”
Or “Your tongue really turns me on.”
Or “I love the way your lips feel on my skin.”
You don’t ever need to make a direct connection between this and oral sex. Instead just create the idea in her mind of her lips, mouth and tongue being sexy and beautiful and desirable.
Again, we’re going for more self esteem, power and desirability here. With everything you’re doing, make sure you do it with a smile. Remember, sex is FUN!
4. Show Her What It Feels Like
I know, this sounds weird, let me explain. Next time you’re messing around with your woman I want you kiss your way down her arm. Use your tongue and lips liberally here and really let her enjoy it.
Kiss your way across her palm, up her fingers and then (with a smile, this is FUN) take her finger into your mouth. Eye contact is good here. Really have fun with her fingers. Fingers are actually REALLY sensitive. She’ll probably like this a LOT and may even get into it.
Being the “Receiver” in that way can really help your woman get into the idea of blowjobs being fun for both side.
5. Make It Seem Like Her Idea
OK, as I said way back in the first few pages of this (increasingly comprehensive…man, my fingers are tired) training, one of the reason so many women don’t like giving a blowjob is because of trauma from the past.
A boyfriend or husband or some guy they were dating was too rough with her, made her gag, created a bad memory and ruined it for the rest of us.
So what we need to do to get her to be INTO the idea of giving you head is put her in the driver’s seat and make the whole thing seem like her idea. If you follow the first 4 steps I listed out here you should be slowly warming her up to the idea of her mouth being an erogenous zone and oral being fun.
Now it’s time to give her the opportunity to “take the bait” and make the decision all on her own to give you head.
Thursday, April 19, 2012
Cover Letter for Jobs - Comedy
Dear Hiring Manager,
I'd first like to take a moment to thank you for reading this before making any rash decisions. Though my resume, teeth, and demeanor speak for themselves please understand that such qualities are in high demand in todays market. Therefore, before either of us move forward in regards to the position I'd prefer to speak briefly about my history, as well as make clear what my expectations are both of you, as well as the organization.
As Willy Wonka once told Mike TV, "time is a precious thing... let's not waste it." He was so serious about that remark he literally threw a perfectly functioning clock into an industrial mixer. I'm sure a mid level decision maker like yourself cannot relate to the entreprenurial spirit of Mr. Wonka however pay that no mind. It can however be assumed that I, like Charlie Bucket, carry the will, desire, and overall fine sense of fashion to take your company to the next level. Unlike Charlie, I will not be distracted by the likes of a Mr. Slugworth, of whom symbolizes our competition in the market place.
Now before you simply pick up the phone and make me a formal offer allow me to put the brakes on... Hands of the merchandise my friend. My experience with previous positions can best be described as a "learning curve" not in the game of life, but more so monopoly. I've seen beaurocracy at its finest. I've witnessed those who own property on "park ave" end up downgrading to "park place" or even worse, are now living under a boardwalk. The little thimble which was once a character on a board game is now what they use to scoop drinking water from a puddle.
If the hierarchy of your organization continues to squeeze the fair share of the wealth solely to the top, like a tube of toothpaste that should have been tossed days ago I simply cannot move forward, at least without the guarantee of a signing bonus. If no signing bonus, I'll forceably accept a higher guaranteed base salary. I am pro- holidays off, especially the ones that only banks acknowledge or Canada or Mexico as I'm a firm believer in refueling the tank as its necessary to put in a full 4 day work week.
In addition to being humble, my character is also one that can only be described as the perfect employee. As opposed to arriving early, or even on time, I make the sacrifice and arrive approx. 15-20 minutes after the rest of the company. The last thing I want to do is have colleagues focused on how they can do things as I do, as opposed to focusing on themselves. I am also very punctual as I am sure to leave for lunch everyday at 12pm exactly regardless of deadlines! How many times have you had a peer leave work early due to illness when perhaps all they needed was a bloody mary to pony up for the rest of the day (countless nutrients in tomato juice). You can rest assure the 2 to 3 hours after lunch are what I like to call "go time."
Interoffice romances I take very seriously. Such behavior should not be tolerated in the work place unless of course the rumors, gossip, and pending domestic violence take place outside the company walls. Then, it is not our problem therefore should be business as usual. Drug use without the consent of a doctor or co-worker should also be addressed. Such topics should be "whether the drug is a stimulant or sedative" as well as if the drug "makes that person more or less annoying" and finally "are they more productive, and less likely to storm the office one day with a hunting rifle from Walmart." No, I don't expect you to understand all these medical terms but understand most people who say they take pride in meneal, boring, soulless tasks whether it be falsifying a Profit and Loss statement or rearranging the "dad hates you" t-shirts at Hot Topic are most likely on some form of happy pill.
A final practice I live by is this, "work smarter, not harder..." thus I encourage you (if not already) to adopt such thinking. 40 hours a week in the workplace significantly impact the long term growth of any organization. Between meetings, alarm clocks, and deadlines there is hardly anytime for one to enjoy a simple long island iced tea, accept maybe lunch time or in the wee hours of a weeknight. I've always cared about the 5 year plan, that's just me I'm a visionary thus if maximizing production is the goal then suggest to cut required hours down to say 20 hours a week. This not only will allow the real "go getters" to finally be recognized by burning out at 25-30 hours but also allow the company to cut health care for everyone! Doesn't it make sense that one who is uninsured is more likely to take care of themselves, drink less, not get sick or get AIDs than one who falls back on the cushion of a health care plan? If the wheels aren't turning by now than perhaps I'm not the best fit for the company and regret having to turn down your pending offer.
Again, I thank you for any opportunities that are either in the organization or if you simply know of one elsewhere. Having said that, most likely you'll opt to pursue me regardless thus please be aware that as I am currently unemployed I prefer to not be called before 11am. I also do not like voicemails, thus text me from your personal cell and mention that it was you, the hiring manager whom attempted to reach me.
I need not bother you with providing professional references as I feel I can provide a reference for myself that is beyond satisfactory. I look forward to starting a great working relationship with you in the near future.
I'd first like to take a moment to thank you for reading this before making any rash decisions. Though my resume, teeth, and demeanor speak for themselves please understand that such qualities are in high demand in todays market. Therefore, before either of us move forward in regards to the position I'd prefer to speak briefly about my history, as well as make clear what my expectations are both of you, as well as the organization.
As Willy Wonka once told Mike TV, "time is a precious thing... let's not waste it." He was so serious about that remark he literally threw a perfectly functioning clock into an industrial mixer. I'm sure a mid level decision maker like yourself cannot relate to the entreprenurial spirit of Mr. Wonka however pay that no mind. It can however be assumed that I, like Charlie Bucket, carry the will, desire, and overall fine sense of fashion to take your company to the next level. Unlike Charlie, I will not be distracted by the likes of a Mr. Slugworth, of whom symbolizes our competition in the market place.
Now before you simply pick up the phone and make me a formal offer allow me to put the brakes on... Hands of the merchandise my friend. My experience with previous positions can best be described as a "learning curve" not in the game of life, but more so monopoly. I've seen beaurocracy at its finest. I've witnessed those who own property on "park ave" end up downgrading to "park place" or even worse, are now living under a boardwalk. The little thimble which was once a character on a board game is now what they use to scoop drinking water from a puddle.
If the hierarchy of your organization continues to squeeze the fair share of the wealth solely to the top, like a tube of toothpaste that should have been tossed days ago I simply cannot move forward, at least without the guarantee of a signing bonus. If no signing bonus, I'll forceably accept a higher guaranteed base salary. I am pro- holidays off, especially the ones that only banks acknowledge or Canada or Mexico as I'm a firm believer in refueling the tank as its necessary to put in a full 4 day work week.
In addition to being humble, my character is also one that can only be described as the perfect employee. As opposed to arriving early, or even on time, I make the sacrifice and arrive approx. 15-20 minutes after the rest of the company. The last thing I want to do is have colleagues focused on how they can do things as I do, as opposed to focusing on themselves. I am also very punctual as I am sure to leave for lunch everyday at 12pm exactly regardless of deadlines! How many times have you had a peer leave work early due to illness when perhaps all they needed was a bloody mary to pony up for the rest of the day (countless nutrients in tomato juice). You can rest assure the 2 to 3 hours after lunch are what I like to call "go time."
Interoffice romances I take very seriously. Such behavior should not be tolerated in the work place unless of course the rumors, gossip, and pending domestic violence take place outside the company walls. Then, it is not our problem therefore should be business as usual. Drug use without the consent of a doctor or co-worker should also be addressed. Such topics should be "whether the drug is a stimulant or sedative" as well as if the drug "makes that person more or less annoying" and finally "are they more productive, and less likely to storm the office one day with a hunting rifle from Walmart." No, I don't expect you to understand all these medical terms but understand most people who say they take pride in meneal, boring, soulless tasks whether it be falsifying a Profit and Loss statement or rearranging the "dad hates you" t-shirts at Hot Topic are most likely on some form of happy pill.
A final practice I live by is this, "work smarter, not harder..." thus I encourage you (if not already) to adopt such thinking. 40 hours a week in the workplace significantly impact the long term growth of any organization. Between meetings, alarm clocks, and deadlines there is hardly anytime for one to enjoy a simple long island iced tea, accept maybe lunch time or in the wee hours of a weeknight. I've always cared about the 5 year plan, that's just me I'm a visionary thus if maximizing production is the goal then suggest to cut required hours down to say 20 hours a week. This not only will allow the real "go getters" to finally be recognized by burning out at 25-30 hours but also allow the company to cut health care for everyone! Doesn't it make sense that one who is uninsured is more likely to take care of themselves, drink less, not get sick or get AIDs than one who falls back on the cushion of a health care plan? If the wheels aren't turning by now than perhaps I'm not the best fit for the company and regret having to turn down your pending offer.
Again, I thank you for any opportunities that are either in the organization or if you simply know of one elsewhere. Having said that, most likely you'll opt to pursue me regardless thus please be aware that as I am currently unemployed I prefer to not be called before 11am. I also do not like voicemails, thus text me from your personal cell and mention that it was you, the hiring manager whom attempted to reach me.
I need not bother you with providing professional references as I feel I can provide a reference for myself that is beyond satisfactory. I look forward to starting a great working relationship with you in the near future.
Seven Ways to get Your Lover Goin'
Seven Ways to get Your Lover Goin'
1. Entice your partner with orgasm exploration. Read up on the many types of peaking men and women can have, and let your lover know that you want to explore how both of you can reach new climactic heights.
2. Incorporate fantasy throughout the day. Plant seeds in your partner’s head of things you know spark interest. Share a hot thought you had involving an erotic moment you once shared. Describe body parts you miss touching and how you’re consumed with longing. Rent a movie with a sexy or romantic storyline. Pursue anything that will put your lover in a sensual state of mind.
3. Stay connected when you do have sex. Don’t make sex about physical gratification alone. Truly worship your lover and hail the lovemaking as a celebratory experience ― one you can’t get enough of.
4. Keep things novel and spicy in and out of the bedroom. In exploring what turns both of you on when it comes to sex, you can broaden your sexual repertoire. You want to make your lover feel like you’re embarking on an adventure, not just going for a simple roll in the hay.
5. Look your best. While we can’t look like our supermodel selves 24/7, putting effort into your appearance helps you put out more persuasions. You’ll be harder to resist.
6. Engage in verbal foreplay. While men often need sex to feel loved, women often need to feel loved before they engage in sex. The more you engage in all types of erotic talk ― affectionate, romantic, sexy ― the more you’ll pique your lover’s interest.
7. Consider how you size up sexual satisfaction. Does sex always have to end in intercourse? Many couples will tell you that they have great sex without engaging in intercourse at all. So rethink your pleasure and the different ways you can realize sexual satisfaction that don’t necessarily require going “all the way.”
Lastly, don’t forget that honesty is the best policy. Talking openly to each other about what sex means to you without being demanding or putting expectations on each other is often necessary. You may just find that your partner needs more satisfaction too!
1. Entice your partner with orgasm exploration. Read up on the many types of peaking men and women can have, and let your lover know that you want to explore how both of you can reach new climactic heights.
2. Incorporate fantasy throughout the day. Plant seeds in your partner’s head of things you know spark interest. Share a hot thought you had involving an erotic moment you once shared. Describe body parts you miss touching and how you’re consumed with longing. Rent a movie with a sexy or romantic storyline. Pursue anything that will put your lover in a sensual state of mind.
3. Stay connected when you do have sex. Don’t make sex about physical gratification alone. Truly worship your lover and hail the lovemaking as a celebratory experience ― one you can’t get enough of.
4. Keep things novel and spicy in and out of the bedroom. In exploring what turns both of you on when it comes to sex, you can broaden your sexual repertoire. You want to make your lover feel like you’re embarking on an adventure, not just going for a simple roll in the hay.
5. Look your best. While we can’t look like our supermodel selves 24/7, putting effort into your appearance helps you put out more persuasions. You’ll be harder to resist.
6. Engage in verbal foreplay. While men often need sex to feel loved, women often need to feel loved before they engage in sex. The more you engage in all types of erotic talk ― affectionate, romantic, sexy ― the more you’ll pique your lover’s interest.
7. Consider how you size up sexual satisfaction. Does sex always have to end in intercourse? Many couples will tell you that they have great sex without engaging in intercourse at all. So rethink your pleasure and the different ways you can realize sexual satisfaction that don’t necessarily require going “all the way.”
Lastly, don’t forget that honesty is the best policy. Talking openly to each other about what sex means to you without being demanding or putting expectations on each other is often necessary. You may just find that your partner needs more satisfaction too!
Oral Sex Techniques
Oral Sex Techniques
The classic legs closed
How it's done: Your partner lies on her back, but keeps her legs together instead of spread.
Advantage: This is a good basic position, especially for women who are shy or nervous about oral sex.
Secret to success: Try long, gentle strokes along the inside of her thighs, from her knees to her pubic hair. This will help stimulate sensation in other areas and get her juices flowing well before you approach her 'action spots'.
Straight on, variation one
How it's done: Your partner lies on her back with her legs over your shoulders.You on your stomach with your face between her legs. Put a pillow under her hips and beneath your chest to reduce the stress on your neck.
Advantage: This position is ideal for women who prefer a strong, upward stroking motion with the more textured top surface of your tongue.
Secret to success: Try using your hands to push gently upward on her abdomen, stretching her skin away from her pubic bone. This stretching action often heightens the sensation created by your tongue strokes.
Straight on, variation two
How it's done: Starting from the same position as in variation 1, have your partner pull one leg upward, so that her thigh rests on or alongside her chest. Use your arm to hold it in position when she starts squirming.
Advantage: In this variation, her vagina will be much more open, facing upward, so your face is in more of a downward position - which should be easier on your neck. This open position is great for women who enjoy very strong, very direct clitoral stimulation.
Secret to success: With gravity in your favour, you'll find that saliva builds in your mouth. Use it. Things can get uncomfortable for her if your tongue starts to dry out.
Loving the prize
How it's done: With your partner on her back, position yourself so that you're lying over her at an angle. Your chest will be resting against her abdomen with your head facing the foot of the bed (your face will be nose-down in her genitalia).
Use one arm to reach around her thigh, and gently part her labia from beneath.
Advantage: In this position you can totally relax the muscles of your neck while you plan your next move. It also allows for more body contact, which may help her feel connected.
Secret to success: Your best stroke will be to use your tongue in a downward direction, tastebud-side up, over her clitoral hood. Women who are more sensitive may prefer this downward stroke. Alternate this with a light upward stroke using the smoother underside of your tongue.
Over your shoulder
How it's done: Get your partner to lie flat on her back and approach her vagina from between her legs. Have her place one leg over your shoulder and leave the other leg flat on the bed, under your shoulder and arm. She should twist her hips slightly, elevating the hip on the side of the raised leg. (You can help by supporting her raised hip with your other arm.)
Advantage: This position is ideal for women who are particularly sensitive along one side of the clitoris.
Secret to success: With one hip raised, she is able to add some movement to aid in your stroking or to help move you to the perfect spot. Encourage her to wriggle a little to help you get it right.
Rear approach
How it's done: Tongue your partner from behind while she's on all fours.
Advantage: Your access is somewhat limited, but she will be very exposed. This approach also allows a strong downward stroke and it's ideal for kissing and sucking her vulva.
Secret to success: For more exposure, have her lower her head onto the bed.
The hovering butterfly
How it's done: Lie on your back with your partner straddling you, facing towards the headboard and bracing herself against the wall.
Advantage: This position is a favourite of many women, and it's a good one to use as your partner nears orgasm. She'll be able to control your speed, pressure, and the angle of her pelvis to allow you access to specific areas. With her partner somewhat hidden beneath her, she can easily drift off into her own world, which may help her climax.
Secret to success: Let her call the shots – don't follow her if she lifts her pelvis off your mouth and don't try to reach for spots she's pulled out of the target zone.
Stand and deliver
How it's done: She stands. You kneel down in front of her. Have her put a leg over one of your shoulders, and help her keep her balance by placing an arm around her opposite thigh to support the small of her back with your hand.
Advantage: This is a great first position to use as you're undressing, or in the shower.
Secret to success: Since her legs are not very open, there's less opportunity for direct clitoral stimulation, so use a hand to gently hold her open - or have her hold herself open for better access.
Chair therapy
How it's done: Have your partner sit on a chair with her legs wide open.
Advantage: This is a good position for either beginning the slow build-up with loose, broad, open strokes, or at the end with stronger suction moves. Your partner is able to easily guide you, and she's able to get a full view of you between her legs, which is a turn-on for many women.
Secret to success: Access. Make sure the chair you use gives you plenty of clearance to move around. Or add an extra kick to proceedings by using a swivel chair where you can direct her movements.
The classic legs closed
How it's done: Your partner lies on her back, but keeps her legs together instead of spread.
Advantage: This is a good basic position, especially for women who are shy or nervous about oral sex.
Secret to success: Try long, gentle strokes along the inside of her thighs, from her knees to her pubic hair. This will help stimulate sensation in other areas and get her juices flowing well before you approach her 'action spots'.
Straight on, variation one
How it's done: Your partner lies on her back with her legs over your shoulders.You on your stomach with your face between her legs. Put a pillow under her hips and beneath your chest to reduce the stress on your neck.
Advantage: This position is ideal for women who prefer a strong, upward stroking motion with the more textured top surface of your tongue.
Secret to success: Try using your hands to push gently upward on her abdomen, stretching her skin away from her pubic bone. This stretching action often heightens the sensation created by your tongue strokes.
Straight on, variation two
How it's done: Starting from the same position as in variation 1, have your partner pull one leg upward, so that her thigh rests on or alongside her chest. Use your arm to hold it in position when she starts squirming.
Advantage: In this variation, her vagina will be much more open, facing upward, so your face is in more of a downward position - which should be easier on your neck. This open position is great for women who enjoy very strong, very direct clitoral stimulation.
Secret to success: With gravity in your favour, you'll find that saliva builds in your mouth. Use it. Things can get uncomfortable for her if your tongue starts to dry out.
Loving the prize
How it's done: With your partner on her back, position yourself so that you're lying over her at an angle. Your chest will be resting against her abdomen with your head facing the foot of the bed (your face will be nose-down in her genitalia).
Use one arm to reach around her thigh, and gently part her labia from beneath.
Advantage: In this position you can totally relax the muscles of your neck while you plan your next move. It also allows for more body contact, which may help her feel connected.
Secret to success: Your best stroke will be to use your tongue in a downward direction, tastebud-side up, over her clitoral hood. Women who are more sensitive may prefer this downward stroke. Alternate this with a light upward stroke using the smoother underside of your tongue.
Over your shoulder
How it's done: Get your partner to lie flat on her back and approach her vagina from between her legs. Have her place one leg over your shoulder and leave the other leg flat on the bed, under your shoulder and arm. She should twist her hips slightly, elevating the hip on the side of the raised leg. (You can help by supporting her raised hip with your other arm.)
Advantage: This position is ideal for women who are particularly sensitive along one side of the clitoris.
Secret to success: With one hip raised, she is able to add some movement to aid in your stroking or to help move you to the perfect spot. Encourage her to wriggle a little to help you get it right.
Rear approach
How it's done: Tongue your partner from behind while she's on all fours.
Advantage: Your access is somewhat limited, but she will be very exposed. This approach also allows a strong downward stroke and it's ideal for kissing and sucking her vulva.
Secret to success: For more exposure, have her lower her head onto the bed.
The hovering butterfly
How it's done: Lie on your back with your partner straddling you, facing towards the headboard and bracing herself against the wall.
Advantage: This position is a favourite of many women, and it's a good one to use as your partner nears orgasm. She'll be able to control your speed, pressure, and the angle of her pelvis to allow you access to specific areas. With her partner somewhat hidden beneath her, she can easily drift off into her own world, which may help her climax.
Secret to success: Let her call the shots – don't follow her if she lifts her pelvis off your mouth and don't try to reach for spots she's pulled out of the target zone.
Stand and deliver
How it's done: She stands. You kneel down in front of her. Have her put a leg over one of your shoulders, and help her keep her balance by placing an arm around her opposite thigh to support the small of her back with your hand.
Advantage: This is a great first position to use as you're undressing, or in the shower.
Secret to success: Since her legs are not very open, there's less opportunity for direct clitoral stimulation, so use a hand to gently hold her open - or have her hold herself open for better access.
Chair therapy
How it's done: Have your partner sit on a chair with her legs wide open.
Advantage: This is a good position for either beginning the slow build-up with loose, broad, open strokes, or at the end with stronger suction moves. Your partner is able to easily guide you, and she's able to get a full view of you between her legs, which is a turn-on for many women.
Secret to success: Access. Make sure the chair you use gives you plenty of clearance to move around. Or add an extra kick to proceedings by using a swivel chair where you can direct her movements.
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