Online Dating

The concept of online dating can be considered daunting for some, especially if it is your first foray into the world of finding a date online! There are countless success stories as well as those who simply did not manage to find someone compatible! If you look into the facts about online dating you can easily use these to your advantage to create a profile which will help you get the most out of your experience and help you meet your dream partner and perhaps make some new friends along the way!

The first step you need to take is actually joining a dating site and this maybe where a lot of your success lies. There are countless generic dating sites which are open to people of all interests, backgrounds, jobs and ages and these tend to have the most members to contact. In addition to this there are niche specific dating sites which are only open to a small selection of individuals, this could be by job, age, particular interest and so on, where in some cases although the number of members will be limited you may find it easier to connect with someone. Increasingly there are dating sites which require you to do a personality test and the results of which will match you with someone whose answers are said to be compatible to yours. After choosing the type you then have the option of free or paid dating sites, once again this is down to personal preference.

If you are happy to join one of the paid dating sites I would recommend you looking for coupons, discounts and special offers, you may be able to save some money on your subscription.

Your profile creation will be the most important part of joining, this is the first impression that everyone will see and what will result in opinions being formed. The most important thing to consider at this point is to always be yourself. Although you may find this is a great opportunity to ‘reinvent’ yourself online if your internet persona does not carry through into your real life persona then you will quickly find you will be meeting people who think you are someone you really aren’t resulting in potential incompatibilities, failed dates and wasted time.

To find someone who suits you perfectly fill in as much of the information as required and although you may find some of your interests quirky and prefer to hide them, having them on your profile will give you the opportunity to meet someone else with a shared interest.

When it comes to photographs it is essential that you have at least one, although it is not a requirement to join you will find that profiles without photographs tend to be completely overlooked.

Take time to properly complete your profile, the more information there is with a picture, headline and so on the more people will have to go off.

Don’t be afraid to make the first move, if you like someone’s profile send them a message, don’t go for something generic! Try and connect with what interested you about the particular profile in the first place, perhaps a shared interest or maybe you have both travelled to the same country? Whatever it is, mention it, it can be a great starting point.

When you have found someone you would like to meet arrange a date in a public place, don’t invite them back to your home and don’t go to theirs. Ensure you are safe at all times which is easily done if you are in a public place and follow safety principles.

How to Get Naked

1. Be Proud Of That Belly

"If you're already undressing, you've made it that far, but now is the big moment. Don't suck in your gut. Be confident -- what you have is what you have, and it's all going to be revealed in time, right? So just go with it and feel good about yourself."

2. You're Not Magic Mike

"Don't do any swinging around. I don't think that's a good idea. You're not in the Chippendales. Maybe I would say a cute little hip swing or something -- that's adorable, that could be cute. Maybe a little bit of a dance move, but no swinging around!"

3. Keep The Playlist Chill

"No putting on music, 'cause then you'll feel like you need to dance and perform [unless] it's something...in the background, setting the mood. Nothing like 'I Believe in Miracles.' We want to stay away from the '80s. No 'It's Raining Men.'"

4. Shirt Goes First

"I would say don't just leave your shirt on. Probably start with taking off the shirt."

5. Socks Go Last

"I think that's actually very cute. I do. Because you're confident enough to leave your socks on 'til the end, and that's the greatest reveal. The socks come off, and then you're fully nude!"

The Naked Hug

We practice an astonishingly simple strategy to maintain an intimate connection amid the challenges and distractions of the lives we lead together and apart. Naked hugs.


Simple, intuitive, obvious even, but far too many of us overlook the most basic solutions to our greatest needs. To love, to feel love, and to feel the support of an intimately connected partner is a foundation upon which a rich and rewarding life can be built.


Skin (our largest organ) gives us an invaluable communications tool which transcends language and has the ability to affect our very chemistry; lowering stress levels and raising feel good hormones like Oxytocin. This is not just true for lovers.


“The conversation between your fingers and someone else’s skin. This is the most important discussion you can ever have.” — Iain Thomas


Adopting the classic American ideology of "more is better", I suggest that the regular hugs you're already giving might be cranked up a few notches in potency if you were both naked. That you should strip down together and go toe to toe, that she should bare her breasts and press them against you because science says it's for the greater good. And it works.


You now have a daily commitment to linger naked in each other's arms, no matter what, and it's how you end each day (usually in bed). Your touch speaks for you... it expresses vulnerability and trust, love and lust, our history and futures together. It is paradoxically both grounding and elevating and weaves you back together.


As the proud owner of a "Y" chromosome, when she wraps her naked body around your largest organ is a pretty effective sexual trigger. Well... maybe I give my chromosome too much credit because she gets worked up by all the skin-on-skin too. Sex is more frequent (and better) on the naked-hug-a-day plan.


If you try this at home, and you should, keep in mind that sex should never be the goal. It is important to give yourself over fully to the embrace, to feel every inch of skin touching you and to pour love out through your every pore. I believe this is the essence of what we seek in sex anyway, before the genitals interrupt with their very important needs.


Setting aside a few moments each day to touch each other is simple and practical. It doesn't take practiced communication skills, negotiation, or reflective listening (all important in their own way). Instead, it leverages your own collective biology to reduce stress, defuse conflict, and reinforce long held priorities. It's free, readily available, and can lead to better, more frequent sex.

The Naked Hug is a no brainer.

5 Fun Foreplay Positions

Star 69

Description: In classic 69 form, you face each other's genitals for a great double oral sex session. In this position, she lies on the bottom and spreads her legs in the air, while you make your way on top of her.

Benefits for you: As in "The dairy cow," you can control all motions and intensity according to what you like. Another rewarding thing about this position is that you have the option of using your fingers if your tongue starts to tire out.

Benefits for her: She gets to lie down -- legs spread-eagle -- and enjoy the ride. Pleasing you is simple through the magic of alignment -- her head rests nicely under your groin area. Also, she has two options when it comes to using her free hands. She can either take the "it's-all-about-me" route and use them to caress herself, or she can take the "selfless" route and use them on you for some extra pleasure.

Wetting your appetite

Foreplay isn't restricted to oral sex alone. Have a good time with other techniques that promote just touching -- this can really help with arousal and build up to some wild sex later. So, try these fun positions to shape up for gettin' down.

Poolside

Description: While she lies on her stomach, you approach her from between her legs. Place a pillow under her stomach to give you easier access to her genitals.

Benefits for you: You're in control here -- use your hands, use just your fingers, use your tongue and your lips. Any way you do it, she's sure to enjoy the pampering.

Benefits for her: One of the great things about this position is the element of surprise -- she can't really see you and has no idea what to expect. The "mystery" factor can lead to an overwhelming heightened sensation as she enjoys you enjoying her.

The electric slide

Description: She leans on her side with one leg bent up and one stretched out; you lie on her outstretched leg, facing away from her. This position is great for caressing and massaging her legs and feet (and for getting yourself a little massage-action too).

Benefits for you: This position is not only a relaxing, easy-going mutual foot massage technique. It leaves your backside exposed for her to caress, making anal stimulation a possibility if you'd like. Also, if you've got yourself a foot fetish, you don't need me to tell you that this is surely the way to go.

Benefits for her: Obviously, this is an ideal way to help her unwind and get into the mood. Hardly anyone can resist the sensuous charms of a relaxing rubdown.

Sealing the deal

Who said positions were only reserved for intercourse? They can also be very helpful before sex too. Try out these moves before doing the deed and see how they can contribute to the fun.

Keep in mind: Great play beforehand will certainly increase your chances of amazing sex afterward.

The Month of May is Masturbation Month

Ah, the month of May. The weather heats up, the clothes come off and society encourages everyone to masturbate themselves silly. You read that right -- May is National Masturbation Month. So take a guilt-free break from trying to win over the girl of your dreams and focus on yourself for a little instead with the knowledge that everyone’s cool with it.

And if you’re brave enough to help destroy the stigma around self-love, you can raise money for sex-awareness groups at events like Philadelphia’s Masturbate-a-thon Fundraiser. Only 29 days left in May. Better get started!

In Defense of the Slut

How many times have you heard people say, “If she wasn’t such a slut…” or, “She’s kind of a slut, but…” or, “I can’t believe she’s slept with [X number] of people”?

I always interject by pointing out that being a slut is not a bad thing — at least, not in the way I define it, i.e. enthusiastically enjoying your sexuality in ways that are always physically and emotionally safe. There is a big difference between sleeping with ten different guys in one month and taking ten Plan B pills in one month. The former is perfectly fine sluttiness (that I encourage!) while the other has nothing to do with sluttiness and everything to do with being careless and irresponsible. I’ll take the side of sluts any day.

How We Learn the Slut Stigma

At a young age we are often taught that women are somehow damaged if they do not “save themselves” sexually for their one true love. As we grow older, many of us find ourselves – naturally — wanting to have sex before marriage or even true love, but the negative connotations attached to more casual sex can still linger, sometimes subconsciously. This can make women feel detached from their own sexual pleasure, turning sex into something that a women does for someone else rather than for herself. How many times a day do we hear the message that a man needs to work hard in order to convince or trick or pressure a woman to sleep with him in order satisfy his natural animalistic libido, while less lustful-women women resist and hold out until perhaps they eventually “give it up.” The conventional cultural wisdom tells us sex is something men do to women, not something people do together on an even playing field, and certainly not something women ever do to men. You hear that enough times, you start to believe it.

Why People Don’t Want the Slut Stigma to Go Away

We all know the tired old double standard of how awesome and studly men are when they sleep around, compared to how dirty, loose, and unlady-like women are when they have a few notches on the bedpost. Stigmatizing the word “slut” has become a way of controlling women’s sexual behavior. If a women thinks that having a lot of sexual partners makes her undesirable, then she might avoid that kind of behavior. She may end up staying in a relationship that is unhealthy, just to make sure she does not sleep with too many people. She may miss out on experiences that she might otherwise enjoy. And if she dares to follow her desires, the guilt and shame that may follow can be debilitating. Thanks to slut shaming, a woman’s sexual agency is seriously limited.

Why the Slut Stigma Is Dangerous

Using the term “slut” as a pejorative is, in part, responsible for the way in which rape victims often get blamed. A woman was raped because she was “scantily clad,” she was “asking for it,” she was “leading him on” — you know, acting like a “slut.” Retaliating against this way of thinking is what spurred the proliferation of the SlutWalks over the past few years. Organizers wanted to reclaim the word “slut” as something positive.

Why We Need to Embrace “Slut”

Expressing one’s sexuality is a good and healthy thing — duh, right? A thousand studies tell us that sex is good for us, but not everyone seems to have gotten the memo. We are told, over and over, that we need to have more sex and better sex and hotter sex — and yet we should also be careful not to explore too much or say too much.

You’d think we’d be over the whole madonna-whore thing by now (yawn), but just last year on Bravo’s reality show “Miss Advised,” columnist Julia Allison described the perfect dress to wear on a first date as one that says to the man, “You can take me home to your mom and I might give you a blowjob on the way there.” Ludacris jumped on the bandwagon with his less-than-original lyric “a lady in the street and a freak in the bed.” Aside from the fact that women are more interesting and more complex then these media portrayals, in both of these examples the sexual part of the women must be hidden in order for her to be seen as respectable.

Women deserve respect. Women are sexual creatures. Ergo, women’s sexuality deserves respect.

What We Can Do to Help

If we could be more open about sex at a young age and actually call a vulva a vulva and not a “private part” or — I even cringe typing this — a”vay-jay-jay,” we might all be better off. We have vaginas just like we have elbows and legs. As much as society does not want to admit it, Freud had it right when he said infants are sexual creatures too. We masturbated as children because we were curious about our bodies. As sex negativity grew, we explored less. Whether you want to find your inner Anastasia Steele/Christian Grey relationship exclusively with your spouse, or you want to enjoy some simple vanilla missionary with your whole block, I don’t think you should be judged any differently. Just keep it honest and safe.

A Slut Mission Statement

I love sluts, perverts, deviants, freaks, and geeks alike. As long as you are fucking in the name of pleasure (and consent), you are okay in my book. A pervert is someone who is not only conscious, but proud, of their sexual nature. That is already more than what a lot of people can say. If you find someone attractive and it just so happens you also like getting off, I say go for it.

Can You Enjoy Sex Without Having A Orgasm?

HELL NO.....

Throughout our sexual life we have been told that the only reason to have sex is to either make another human or to have an orgasm. If you fall outside of these guidelines then you should not even have sex because its no fun and useless. I am here to say that is such a bunch of Bull Shit! Sex is way more than making babies or making toes curl. We put a lot of pressure on our partners when it comes to orgasms and it can create dysfunction in our bedroom.

Studies show that about 75% of women have never achieved orgasm though penetration, and as many as 10% have never achieved an orgasm at all. If a woman does orgasm there is no guarantee that she will orgasm every time. So your girl friend is not alone. Also understand that the orgasm is 80% mental. During times of stress or turmoil it will be harder to focus on accepting pleasure. If there is past sexual trauma or negative ideals towards sex from upbringing that will be a big factor to.

Orgasms are a plus but they are not the only thing that makes sex great. Sex is about intimate connection. It’s about two people coming together to make each other feel a deeper level of pleasure and excitement. Take the emphasis off of the experience of the Big O and enjoy the experience of your lover.