Recent research straight from the lab demonstrates that sexual activity in adults may improve mental performance and help produce new neurons in the hippocampus, which is the part of the brain where long-term memories are formed. So much for doing crossword puzzles and sudoku! A separate study found that sex can counteract the kind of chronic stress that screws with the ability to remember things. (The first study was conducted on “middle-aged rats” and the second on mice. I wonder how midlife crises manifest themselves in middle-aged rats?!)
Of course, this may not be enough evidence to convert all those crossword and sudoku addicts to midlife sexual activity, so we thought we’d expand the news into a own nifty five-part list. Here are our Top 5 Reasons Why Sex Makes You Smarter:
1. Sex Helps You Grow New Brain Cells
If we were having more sex, we might be better equipped to explain this to you, but as we said above, in middle-aged rates, sex improves mental performance and long-term memory.
2. Sex Reduces Stress… Which Makes Your Memory Work Better
“Stress is one of the most potent inhibitors of hippocampal neurogenesis,” the scientists say, and we nod seriously and pretend to totally understand this. What we do understand is that sex can help fix this!
3. Sex Releases Endorphins…. Which Makes You Smarter
Endorphins are the “feel good” chemical — it acts as a natural painkiller, lessens anxiety (see #2, above), and helps you sleep better. All of which helps your brain, Einstein. More specifically, endorphins have been found to help calm and focus the brain.
4. Energetic Sex Boosts Circulation and Blood Flow… to the Brain
Energetic sex is a form of exercise, which boosts the blood flow to your brain… which makes it work better. Studies have found that both attention and focus improve for several hours after exercise — so hop on top, Pop!
5. Sex Builds Emotional Intelligence
Sex — or, at least, good sex — requires tuning into another person so completely that you know as much as they do (if not more!) about what turns them on. That’s a kind of focus we could all use more of, whether at home or work.
Wednesday, January 22, 2014
Tuesday, December 31, 2013
Cock Rings
Cock rings have many qualities that many men will enjoy :
1.When the penis is flaccid, cock rings act like a spacer. They distance the cock and balls from the rest of the body and, as a result, bring the whole package forward. Worn under clothing, cock rings thus help in shaping a flattering bulge in pants.
2.The weight of the cock ring (at least for heavier ones) tug on the genitals, emphasizing the owner’s perception of size and heft of their genitals. The weight also increases the man’s perception of his erection.
3. A correctly sized cock ring slightly squeezes the base of the shaft when the penis is erect, impeding the blood flow out of the penis. Consequently, the cock ring helps in fostering an erection that is maximally hard with the best girth possible.
4.As a part of the ejaculation process, the testicles need to be lifted and be pressed against the body. Since they impede on the rising of the testicles, cock rings help to delay ejaculation in part.
5.For men whose inguinal canals are too large (allowing the testicles to slip (at least in part) into these canals, the cock ring acts as a stopper to prevent the testes from entering this inguinal canal, thus avoiding painful ejaculations or some post orgasmic pains.
6.Cock rings are also useful for men with erectile dysfunction or those who tend to loose their erection too quickly, as a correctly sized ring will press on the veins of the penis and help maintain the erection.
There are various models of cock rings. Apart from the metal rings shown in the various example above, there are also rubber or silicone rings, as well as snap open/close rings. The later are the safest as they can be removed at any time.
True rings (like the metal examples above) can only be inserted or removed when the penis is flaccid. This can be a problem if the ring proves to be too small when full erection is achieved, creating a health hazard. (For metal cock rings, the soft penis must be inserted first, then the balls, one after the other. Same for rubber rings, generally. As for leather rings, they are usually held closed with a snap.)
Finally, it should be noted that, because they impede blood flow in part, cock rings should not be worn all day. They should be removed at least for the night to allow for a healthy blood flow (oxygenation and repair of tissues). And that is especially true for closed rings.
1.When the penis is flaccid, cock rings act like a spacer. They distance the cock and balls from the rest of the body and, as a result, bring the whole package forward. Worn under clothing, cock rings thus help in shaping a flattering bulge in pants.
2.The weight of the cock ring (at least for heavier ones) tug on the genitals, emphasizing the owner’s perception of size and heft of their genitals. The weight also increases the man’s perception of his erection.
3. A correctly sized cock ring slightly squeezes the base of the shaft when the penis is erect, impeding the blood flow out of the penis. Consequently, the cock ring helps in fostering an erection that is maximally hard with the best girth possible.
4.As a part of the ejaculation process, the testicles need to be lifted and be pressed against the body. Since they impede on the rising of the testicles, cock rings help to delay ejaculation in part.
5.For men whose inguinal canals are too large (allowing the testicles to slip (at least in part) into these canals, the cock ring acts as a stopper to prevent the testes from entering this inguinal canal, thus avoiding painful ejaculations or some post orgasmic pains.
6.Cock rings are also useful for men with erectile dysfunction or those who tend to loose their erection too quickly, as a correctly sized ring will press on the veins of the penis and help maintain the erection.
There are various models of cock rings. Apart from the metal rings shown in the various example above, there are also rubber or silicone rings, as well as snap open/close rings. The later are the safest as they can be removed at any time.
True rings (like the metal examples above) can only be inserted or removed when the penis is flaccid. This can be a problem if the ring proves to be too small when full erection is achieved, creating a health hazard. (For metal cock rings, the soft penis must be inserted first, then the balls, one after the other. Same for rubber rings, generally. As for leather rings, they are usually held closed with a snap.)
Finally, it should be noted that, because they impede blood flow in part, cock rings should not be worn all day. They should be removed at least for the night to allow for a healthy blood flow (oxygenation and repair of tissues). And that is especially true for closed rings.
Monday, December 9, 2013
New Sex Rule: The 7-Minute Limit On Blowjobs
Here ye, here ye! We, the women of The Frisky, hereby decree that blowjobs should last no longer than seven minutes. Why seven minutes you ask? Men, let us do you a favor and explain why.
The initial enthusiasm to give a blowjob starts to die around the 5-minute mark. Slobbing the knob is hard fucking work. Your lady is concentrating on sheathing her teeth, generating spit, sucking, working her tongue, bobbing her head at the right rhythm all while trying to interpret what will make you come faster. (Note: We didn’t say harder.) Did his dick just flex? Was that a moan? To play with the balls, or not to play with the balls?
After seven minutes, severe boredom starts to set in. Our minds start to wander. We begin to create unrelated to do lists. Do I have milk? After he’s done, I really should do laundry. Ooh, is a new episode of “Scandal” on tonight? What’s Mellie gonna do next?! The list-making comes to an end pretty quickly though, as lip, neck, and jaw ache starts to set in. Not fun. We would like to invite all men to work a cucumber for 10 minutes and see how it feels.
After the 10-minute mark, annoyance starts to set in. Guys, seriously, if she keeps changing up her technique, she isn’t teasing you. She doesn’t want to prolong the process, trust. She was forced to use her hands from fear of dislocating her jaw. At this point, she’s probably staring up at you in anger wondering if you masturbated all day and that’s why you’re taking so long.
Men, don’t interpret this the wrong way. We don’t tell you this to put the pressure on. For everyone’s sake don’t stress out. (Most people can’t come under stress.) We share this information to assist you. We appreciate the time you spend reciprocating oral and are sure you have your own list of woes. But if blowjobs only lasted a seven minutes, more women would enjoy giving them and men would receive them at a higher frequency.
Men, do yourself a favor, come faster or, after seven minutes, smile down at her and tell her you want to fuck. We bet you 9 out of 10 times she gratefully replies yes.
Tuesday, November 19, 2013
Day Off, Clothes Off, Game On
When you ditch work for the sole purpose of getting laid it can make for awkward next-day conversation at the water cooler. “So, what did you do yesterday?”, they always ask. “I shot a hot load of cum deep into my wife’s ass”, I’d like to say before taking another sip of water and watching their eyes react.
Actually, that would only tell part of the story… and it’s not really fair to cut out the true context of Sue’s and my day off together. We’re a couple months into an upswing, enjoying a closeness and fondness for each other that goes missing sometimes. Long term relationships can be like that, going through cycles where the intimacy gap waxes and wanes in a slow rhythm beneath the melody of lives intertwined. Sometimes Sue’s love is so strong that she even looks past my mixed metaphors.
Our day to day responsibilities leave little room for spontaneity so we try to push the clutter aside and plan quality (i.e. sexy) time together. She took the kids to school while I lit a fire, dusted off the massage table, and warmed up the coconut oil. The anticipation hardwired into such prep work is enough to make a soft man hard.
I spent the next hour hungrily touching every inch of her; every muscle, every freckle, every fold. We were in constant intimate contact in peaceful surroundings, our world of other obligations melted and evaporated into nothing. It was just us. Together and in love like the day we married, naked and in tune with each others’ every breath. Massage is a wonderful gift of sharing and we recommend it highly.
We showered together, I helped her soap the excess oil from places hard to reach and places fun to touch. We dried our bodies, brushed our hair, got ourselves ready for the day… and then went back to bed. The details, which messed up our bed so badly, do not need to be mentioned but I will say Sue has talents only I really know about. Wowza!
Back at the water cooler… I want to explain that Sue’s ass was completely irresistible because she surprised me with a jeweled butt plug much like this one. She ordered it, received it, and inserted it without my catching on. I discovered it peeking out between her cheeks like she was Queen of the Assholes. I kneeled, I kissed, and then I took the Queen’s precious jewel and fucked her real good.
I’d love to imagine what goes through my co-workers jealous little heads when I leave for a week.
Actually, that would only tell part of the story… and it’s not really fair to cut out the true context of Sue’s and my day off together. We’re a couple months into an upswing, enjoying a closeness and fondness for each other that goes missing sometimes. Long term relationships can be like that, going through cycles where the intimacy gap waxes and wanes in a slow rhythm beneath the melody of lives intertwined. Sometimes Sue’s love is so strong that she even looks past my mixed metaphors.
Our day to day responsibilities leave little room for spontaneity so we try to push the clutter aside and plan quality (i.e. sexy) time together. She took the kids to school while I lit a fire, dusted off the massage table, and warmed up the coconut oil. The anticipation hardwired into such prep work is enough to make a soft man hard.
I spent the next hour hungrily touching every inch of her; every muscle, every freckle, every fold. We were in constant intimate contact in peaceful surroundings, our world of other obligations melted and evaporated into nothing. It was just us. Together and in love like the day we married, naked and in tune with each others’ every breath. Massage is a wonderful gift of sharing and we recommend it highly.
We showered together, I helped her soap the excess oil from places hard to reach and places fun to touch. We dried our bodies, brushed our hair, got ourselves ready for the day… and then went back to bed. The details, which messed up our bed so badly, do not need to be mentioned but I will say Sue has talents only I really know about. Wowza!
Back at the water cooler… I want to explain that Sue’s ass was completely irresistible because she surprised me with a jeweled butt plug much like this one. She ordered it, received it, and inserted it without my catching on. I discovered it peeking out between her cheeks like she was Queen of the Assholes. I kneeled, I kissed, and then I took the Queen’s precious jewel and fucked her real good.
I’d love to imagine what goes through my co-workers jealous little heads when I leave for a week.
Friday, November 8, 2013
How to Make Her Cum.
Here are some fab tips and tricks for you, from me, about what the ladies want / expect / wish / demand / lust / desire.... when it comes to foreplay in the bedroom (wherever your actively fucking):
1. The massage. I put this at the very top of the list, because it is my truly, absolutely, most favorite part of the whole escapade. Massages can be so hot, sexy, romantic, sensual, and just a plain turn on! I genuinely would bang a female massage therapist that I’m not psychically attracted to, just because she gives a good massage. Seriously. And by “bang,” I mean she could even go down on me. I just love massages, and want to express to my Bro’s how a simple massage could turn into the best sex of your life. A tip: remember her upper thighs... those are the best parts!
2. Kissing! I love kissing – fresh breath and tongue, on my neck and all over my body – kissing is the perfect lead-in to feeling up and down her body. Getting her wet, with your cock hard, and teasing the fuck out of each other…so HOT. Just remember: fresh breath is ALWAYS appreciated.
3. Setting the mood. Ultimately, any place you want to fuck can probably be accommodated, aside from the really illegal places... and any place can be set up to be a real sexy area, but the trick for me is in the pre-planning. Everything in life is smoother with a game plan, right? The other day, I cleared my hotel furniture and attempted to fuck on the windowsill. It could have backfired, but the attempt is what counted, and planning helped a lot before we even got started! So – try to make the location of the sex fun, frisky, and hot. Use candles and lighting, scents and music, decor or none at all – just think about how the place makes you feel, and how it will make her feel, and increase it with your senses so the kind of sex you have is inspired by the mood you’ve set.
4. Conversation. Sounds so simple, but a great interaction with someone, a real intellectual talk, even a spiritual one, or even a fun and playful banter, can change the way I see an individual. Try to not be too full of yourself – and make sure to ask her lots of questions about herself. People love to talk about themselves, don’t you? Having a hard time breaking the ice? Knowing a little about what’s going on in the world, or in pop culture, or having common likes and dislikes, can really help to spark interest.
5. Titty play. Boobs can be ultra sensitive; I know mine are! Lots of attention to my tits is always appreciated, and makes a woman feel really sexually desired, so make sure to touch them and caress them, suck them, and lick them – and of course if foreplay goes accordingly... TITTY FUCK them! Of course, tread carefully – some girls get annoyed if they’re not turned on before titty play, so if she seems like that kind of girl, maybe start with something else to get her warmed up before attacking the tits.
6. Butt play. It’s not for the weak of heart. I’m only kidding in my case – that’s totally a turn on to me, and I don't mean just anal sex. I mean you can softly or roughly grab my ass, kiss it, lick it, and anally rim it. I love a man to want to eat my ass out, with his tongue deep inside me. Is that too much info?
7. Play with that clitoris. Start just over the top of, twirl it around, and listen to her moans to see what she's into. Make sure you’re not going too hard, by asking her how she likes it. Kiss her when you’re playing with her clit, and look into her eyes, and touch her neck with your mouth. This can all lead to an orgasm, with absolutely no sex…and she’ll thank you for it!
8. Finger that pussy. All this action has got her soaking wet by now – at least mine would be. So slip your clean fingers deep inside of her, and bang her, nice and slow, and then speed it up. Make sure she is okay with this – you can move up to 2 fingers or more, which can be really fun as well.
9. Spanking. My personal fetish can get a certain type of woman in the mood to play dirty, and I mean real dirty. Make sure you test it out first though – start softly, and see if she's into it. If she’s not into it, do not continue. But more than likely she is, and you should absolutely try to “punish” her to the extent that she is comfortable. This is about turning HER on, not hurting her! :)
10. Pussy licking. My personal favorite and most important part! If she’s nervous, keep working at it to convince her to love it. If she's going to have sex with you, how could she not, right? Some girls are very insecure about their girl parts, and need a little extra confidence about how good they taste, and smell, and feel. Get your tongue and face up in there, and be the man I know you are – eat her out properly!
11. Make her cum.
1. The massage. I put this at the very top of the list, because it is my truly, absolutely, most favorite part of the whole escapade. Massages can be so hot, sexy, romantic, sensual, and just a plain turn on! I genuinely would bang a female massage therapist that I’m not psychically attracted to, just because she gives a good massage. Seriously. And by “bang,” I mean she could even go down on me. I just love massages, and want to express to my Bro’s how a simple massage could turn into the best sex of your life. A tip: remember her upper thighs... those are the best parts!
2. Kissing! I love kissing – fresh breath and tongue, on my neck and all over my body – kissing is the perfect lead-in to feeling up and down her body. Getting her wet, with your cock hard, and teasing the fuck out of each other…so HOT. Just remember: fresh breath is ALWAYS appreciated.
3. Setting the mood. Ultimately, any place you want to fuck can probably be accommodated, aside from the really illegal places... and any place can be set up to be a real sexy area, but the trick for me is in the pre-planning. Everything in life is smoother with a game plan, right? The other day, I cleared my hotel furniture and attempted to fuck on the windowsill. It could have backfired, but the attempt is what counted, and planning helped a lot before we even got started! So – try to make the location of the sex fun, frisky, and hot. Use candles and lighting, scents and music, decor or none at all – just think about how the place makes you feel, and how it will make her feel, and increase it with your senses so the kind of sex you have is inspired by the mood you’ve set.
4. Conversation. Sounds so simple, but a great interaction with someone, a real intellectual talk, even a spiritual one, or even a fun and playful banter, can change the way I see an individual. Try to not be too full of yourself – and make sure to ask her lots of questions about herself. People love to talk about themselves, don’t you? Having a hard time breaking the ice? Knowing a little about what’s going on in the world, or in pop culture, or having common likes and dislikes, can really help to spark interest.
5. Titty play. Boobs can be ultra sensitive; I know mine are! Lots of attention to my tits is always appreciated, and makes a woman feel really sexually desired, so make sure to touch them and caress them, suck them, and lick them – and of course if foreplay goes accordingly... TITTY FUCK them! Of course, tread carefully – some girls get annoyed if they’re not turned on before titty play, so if she seems like that kind of girl, maybe start with something else to get her warmed up before attacking the tits.
6. Butt play. It’s not for the weak of heart. I’m only kidding in my case – that’s totally a turn on to me, and I don't mean just anal sex. I mean you can softly or roughly grab my ass, kiss it, lick it, and anally rim it. I love a man to want to eat my ass out, with his tongue deep inside me. Is that too much info?
7. Play with that clitoris. Start just over the top of, twirl it around, and listen to her moans to see what she's into. Make sure you’re not going too hard, by asking her how she likes it. Kiss her when you’re playing with her clit, and look into her eyes, and touch her neck with your mouth. This can all lead to an orgasm, with absolutely no sex…and she’ll thank you for it!
8. Finger that pussy. All this action has got her soaking wet by now – at least mine would be. So slip your clean fingers deep inside of her, and bang her, nice and slow, and then speed it up. Make sure she is okay with this – you can move up to 2 fingers or more, which can be really fun as well.
9. Spanking. My personal fetish can get a certain type of woman in the mood to play dirty, and I mean real dirty. Make sure you test it out first though – start softly, and see if she's into it. If she’s not into it, do not continue. But more than likely she is, and you should absolutely try to “punish” her to the extent that she is comfortable. This is about turning HER on, not hurting her! :)
10. Pussy licking. My personal favorite and most important part! If she’s nervous, keep working at it to convince her to love it. If she's going to have sex with you, how could she not, right? Some girls are very insecure about their girl parts, and need a little extra confidence about how good they taste, and smell, and feel. Get your tongue and face up in there, and be the man I know you are – eat her out properly!
11. Make her cum.
Friday, October 18, 2013
Sex With Blindfolds
Blindfolds for Beginners
A blindfold can increase sexual tension and magnify arousal; because when one your senses is lost all of the other senses become heightened to compensate. There is more to sex with blindfolds than you might imagine, so read on to find out how you can use these sexual aids to spice up your relationship.
Food Foreplay
The use of blindfolds doesn’t have to be overtly sexual, so if you are trying to persuade a partner to step outside of your love-making routine, a good place to start is outside of the bedroom. Blindfold her, or have her blindfold you and surprise each other’s taste buds with all kinds of yummy treats; like strawberries, honey or chocolate. Just avoid the temptation to slip something nasty in her mouth, like a chilli, if you want the fun to carry on in the bedroom afterwards.
Blindfolds in the Bedroom
Once you have built up a level of trust you can move the fun and games into the bedroom. If your partner is wearing the blindfold; undress her and then begin caressing her hands, toes, legs, back, stomach, face, neck, breasts and genitals. Experiment with the pressure of your touch and tease your partner by pausing before touching her again in an unexpected place – moving from one part of her body to another. Allow you lips to trace the lines of her body, kissing and licking as you move down towards her vagina. This is an intense form of foreplay, because she can't see what you're doing, which makes her anticipation that much more powerful.
She doesn’t have to be a passive partner, why not let her explore your body, smell the scent of your body or taste the flavour on your skin. This will allow her to focus all of her other senses. Or if you would prefer to be the submissive partner then reverse the roles and let her tie the blindfold on you. Then prepare to experience amazing sensations – when you can’t see what she is doing the feel of her hands or mouth on your skin is magnified two-fold and can be mind-blowing.
Inhibitions tend to diminish somewhat when people wear blindfolds and that is especially true for the unmasked partner, because they know that their facial expressions, movements or the parts of their body that they are self-conscious about can’t be seen. So to try something even more adventurous or liberating, why not both wear blindfolds?
Handy Household Items
Experimentation with blindfolds can be relatively spontaneous. You don’t have to plan it out in advance or buy a special blindfold. Instead, you can use things that you already have around the house like your ties, her scarves or anything else that can cover your eyes adequately.
A simple blindfold can result in an amazing level of arousal, so find that tie or scarf and enjoy!
A blindfold can increase sexual tension and magnify arousal; because when one your senses is lost all of the other senses become heightened to compensate. There is more to sex with blindfolds than you might imagine, so read on to find out how you can use these sexual aids to spice up your relationship.
Food Foreplay
The use of blindfolds doesn’t have to be overtly sexual, so if you are trying to persuade a partner to step outside of your love-making routine, a good place to start is outside of the bedroom. Blindfold her, or have her blindfold you and surprise each other’s taste buds with all kinds of yummy treats; like strawberries, honey or chocolate. Just avoid the temptation to slip something nasty in her mouth, like a chilli, if you want the fun to carry on in the bedroom afterwards.
Blindfolds in the Bedroom
Once you have built up a level of trust you can move the fun and games into the bedroom. If your partner is wearing the blindfold; undress her and then begin caressing her hands, toes, legs, back, stomach, face, neck, breasts and genitals. Experiment with the pressure of your touch and tease your partner by pausing before touching her again in an unexpected place – moving from one part of her body to another. Allow you lips to trace the lines of her body, kissing and licking as you move down towards her vagina. This is an intense form of foreplay, because she can't see what you're doing, which makes her anticipation that much more powerful.
She doesn’t have to be a passive partner, why not let her explore your body, smell the scent of your body or taste the flavour on your skin. This will allow her to focus all of her other senses. Or if you would prefer to be the submissive partner then reverse the roles and let her tie the blindfold on you. Then prepare to experience amazing sensations – when you can’t see what she is doing the feel of her hands or mouth on your skin is magnified two-fold and can be mind-blowing.
Inhibitions tend to diminish somewhat when people wear blindfolds and that is especially true for the unmasked partner, because they know that their facial expressions, movements or the parts of their body that they are self-conscious about can’t be seen. So to try something even more adventurous or liberating, why not both wear blindfolds?
Handy Household Items
Experimentation with blindfolds can be relatively spontaneous. You don’t have to plan it out in advance or buy a special blindfold. Instead, you can use things that you already have around the house like your ties, her scarves or anything else that can cover your eyes adequately.
A simple blindfold can result in an amazing level of arousal, so find that tie or scarf and enjoy!
Tuesday, September 17, 2013
Online Dating
The concept of online dating can be considered daunting for some, especially if it is your first foray into the world of finding a date online! There are countless success stories as well as those who simply did not manage to find someone compatible! If you look into the facts about online dating you can easily use these to your advantage to create a profile which will help you get the most out of your experience and help you meet your dream partner and perhaps make some new friends along the way!
The first step you need to take is actually joining a dating site and this maybe where a lot of your success lies. There are countless generic dating sites which are open to people of all interests, backgrounds, jobs and ages and these tend to have the most members to contact. In addition to this there are niche specific dating sites which are only open to a small selection of individuals, this could be by job, age, particular interest and so on, where in some cases although the number of members will be limited you may find it easier to connect with someone. Increasingly there are dating sites which require you to do a personality test and the results of which will match you with someone whose answers are said to be compatible to yours. After choosing the type you then have the option of free or paid dating sites, once again this is down to personal preference.
If you are happy to join one of the paid dating sites I would recommend you looking for coupons, discounts and special offers, you may be able to save some money on your subscription.
Your profile creation will be the most important part of joining, this is the first impression that everyone will see and what will result in opinions being formed. The most important thing to consider at this point is to always be yourself. Although you may find this is a great opportunity to ‘reinvent’ yourself online if your internet persona does not carry through into your real life persona then you will quickly find you will be meeting people who think you are someone you really aren’t resulting in potential incompatibilities, failed dates and wasted time.
To find someone who suits you perfectly fill in as much of the information as required and although you may find some of your interests quirky and prefer to hide them, having them on your profile will give you the opportunity to meet someone else with a shared interest.
When it comes to photographs it is essential that you have at least one, although it is not a requirement to join you will find that profiles without photographs tend to be completely overlooked.
Take time to properly complete your profile, the more information there is with a picture, headline and so on the more people will have to go off.
Don’t be afraid to make the first move, if you like someone’s profile send them a message, don’t go for something generic! Try and connect with what interested you about the particular profile in the first place, perhaps a shared interest or maybe you have both travelled to the same country? Whatever it is, mention it, it can be a great starting point.
When you have found someone you would like to meet arrange a date in a public place, don’t invite them back to your home and don’t go to theirs. Ensure you are safe at all times which is easily done if you are in a public place and follow safety principles.
The first step you need to take is actually joining a dating site and this maybe where a lot of your success lies. There are countless generic dating sites which are open to people of all interests, backgrounds, jobs and ages and these tend to have the most members to contact. In addition to this there are niche specific dating sites which are only open to a small selection of individuals, this could be by job, age, particular interest and so on, where in some cases although the number of members will be limited you may find it easier to connect with someone. Increasingly there are dating sites which require you to do a personality test and the results of which will match you with someone whose answers are said to be compatible to yours. After choosing the type you then have the option of free or paid dating sites, once again this is down to personal preference.
If you are happy to join one of the paid dating sites I would recommend you looking for coupons, discounts and special offers, you may be able to save some money on your subscription.
Your profile creation will be the most important part of joining, this is the first impression that everyone will see and what will result in opinions being formed. The most important thing to consider at this point is to always be yourself. Although you may find this is a great opportunity to ‘reinvent’ yourself online if your internet persona does not carry through into your real life persona then you will quickly find you will be meeting people who think you are someone you really aren’t resulting in potential incompatibilities, failed dates and wasted time.
To find someone who suits you perfectly fill in as much of the information as required and although you may find some of your interests quirky and prefer to hide them, having them on your profile will give you the opportunity to meet someone else with a shared interest.
When it comes to photographs it is essential that you have at least one, although it is not a requirement to join you will find that profiles without photographs tend to be completely overlooked.
Take time to properly complete your profile, the more information there is with a picture, headline and so on the more people will have to go off.
Don’t be afraid to make the first move, if you like someone’s profile send them a message, don’t go for something generic! Try and connect with what interested you about the particular profile in the first place, perhaps a shared interest or maybe you have both travelled to the same country? Whatever it is, mention it, it can be a great starting point.
When you have found someone you would like to meet arrange a date in a public place, don’t invite them back to your home and don’t go to theirs. Ensure you are safe at all times which is easily done if you are in a public place and follow safety principles.
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